The Insecure Writer’s Support Group #IWSG

The Insecure Writer's Support Group

If you’d like to chime in and let us know your answers to the questions or drop a link to your post if you’re participating, please do so in the comments! And check out the IWSG website for more answers!

May 4 question – It’s the best of times; it’s the worst of times. What are your writer highs (the good times)? And what are your writer lows (the crappy times)?

Jayden: Oh, well, let’s see. The best times were writing times with friends. I can’t count the number of evenings I spent laughing, writing, laughing some more. My best friends and I co-wrote a story. We all sat with our laptops taking turns writing paragraphs. It was entertaining. Slow going, but entertaining. Then we would get distracted talking, but it was an amazing experience, and I hope that we’ll be able to get back to it.

The worst times were the deadlines. Self-imposed deadlines, for me, but still. Staying up late, getting up early, squeezing in words in every available moment. The times that I had to type with my eyes closed because I literally couldn’t keep them open anymore. But all worth it for the novels and short stories I’ve written, and the love I have with my writing friends. And of course, the fact that through my writing group, I met my partner. We blog together, we live together, and now we’re married. I wouldn’t have it any other way.

Richard: The best part of writing is when you finish a project. The worst part is any time anyone reads anything I write.

What are your writers highs and lows?

The Insecure Writer’s Support Group #IWSG

The Insecure Writer's Support Group

It’s our one year anniversary with IWSG! I’m impressed with us that we haven’t missed a month, though we’ve squeaked in a little late here and there.

If you’d like to chime in and let us know your answers to the questions or drop a link to your post if you’re participating, please do so in the comments! And check out the IWSG website for more answers!

April 6 question – Have any of your books been made into audio books? If so, what is the main challenge in producing an audiobook?

Jayden: I can answer for both of us. Nope! For me, I don’t even know where I would begin to produce an audiobook. Although, fun fact, I once recorded about 90% of a novel as an audiobook for a boyfriend in high school. It was his favorite book and there was no audiobook of it. When I couldn’t buy one, I wanted to record it just for him, but I never finished and then we broke up. Ah well. Would’ve been a copyright issue, anyway

Richard also said no, but he did make a writing observation today that we’ll share: He’s enjoying our A to Z Challenge blog posts. I (Jayden) am writing the worldbuilding details, and he’s writing a story to go with it, except he’s purposefully not quite writing about the same thing I am. For example, coming up on 4/7 is “F is for Food” but he somehow wrote more about firepower and scarecrows than food! It’s worth the read though!

Have you ever had a novel made into an audiobook?

The Insecure Writer’s Support Group #IWSG

The Insecure Writer's Support Group

Happy one year anniversary to our participation in IWSG!

If you’d like to chime in and let us know your answers to the questions or drop a link to your post if you’re participating, please do so in the comments! And check out the IWSG website for more answers!

March 2 question – Have you ever been conflicted about writing a story or adding a scene to a story? How did you decide to write it or not?

Jayden: Absolutely. I write a lot of smut (pretty much exclusively smut) and over the years, my kinks have gotten less mainstream. It’s sexy as hell to me to write smut about golden showers, ass to mouth, etc. but sometimes I question if I should publish those scenes. I write for myself, but I like to share. So in the end, I write what I like and hope that others like it (or will skip over the ones they don’t like).

Richard: I think all writers are conflicted about something at some point or another. For me, the answer is almost always, “right it now, edit it later.” Usually I can tell part way through the scene if it’ll be a keeper or not.

Have you been conflicted?

The Insecure Writer’s Support Group #IWSG

The Insecure Writer's Support Group

We’re back for an 11th month of The Insecure Writer’s Support Group! Almost a full year!

If you’d like to chime in and let us know your answers to the questions or drop a link to your post if you’re participating, please do so in the comments! And check out the IWSG website for more answers!

February 2 question – Is there someone who supported or influenced you that perhaps isn’t around anymore? Anyone you miss?

Jayden: Of course there are. My grandparents are a prime example. I miss them terribly. Although they didn’t always understand me, they always supported me. I hope they’d be proud of me if they could see me now.

Richard: I’m also going to say my grandparents. I wish I’d learned more of my Gramma’s recipes, and I think my grandfathers would’ve had all kinds of cool stuff to teach me. We have a lot of hobbies in common, and they supported me while they were alive.

Is there someone you miss who influenced you?

The Insecure Writer’s Support Group #IWSG

The Insecure Writer's Support Group

We’re back for a 10th month of The Insecure Writer’s Support Group! We’re excited to be back, and to have at least one challenge we haven’t dropped the ball on. This is still the only one we’ve been consistent with, though we’re mostly back on track with TMI Tuesday.

If you’d like to chime in and let us know your answers to the questions or drop a link to your post if you’re participating, please do so in the comments! And check out the IWSG website for more answers!

January 5 question – What’s the one thing about your writing career you regret the most? Were you able to overcome it?

Jayden: Well, I’ve published a few novels and don’t really market them. I like writing a lot, but editing isn’t my forte. I can line edit and continuity like nobody’s business, but keeping track of all the details and big picture things just isn’t what I’m good at. One of my good friends once said to me that there’s a market for write book, grammarly, read once, publish. I think that’s about where I am in my writing process. I’ve done *a lot* of writing, but not as much editing or publishing especially in the last year. So I’m working on overcoming it.

That said, writing is NOT my primary career, and I don’t really have a goal of that being the case. Someday, I would like to retire young and use writing to fill in the gaps until I can be really fully retired. But… I’m in my 30s, so I have a looooong time until it’s even a concern. So ‘overcoming’ isn’t really a big deal right at the moment.

Richard: I don’t really think I have a writing “career” as such, so it’s hard to have regrets for it. Like Jayden (and probably 99% of writers) I wish I’d written more, published more, started earlier, etc. I wish I’d pushed a little harder for other MFA programs. I may still have wound up where I did, but it never hurts to put out more applications, have more options, etc.

What are your stresses and delights when writing? Drop them in the comments!

The Insecure Writer’s Support Group #IWSG

The Insecure Writer's Support Group

We’re back for a 9th month of The Insecure Writer’s Support Group! We’re excited to be back, and to have at least one challenge we haven’t dropped the ball on. (Actually, we were good with NaNoWriMo, we just went below our original goals.)

If you’d like to chime in and let us know your answers to the questions or drop a link to your post if you’re participating, please do so in the comments! And check out the IWSG website for more answers!

December: In your writing, what stresses you the most? What delights you?

Jayden: I guess it depends on what I’m doing. If I’m writing something for the sake of getting words, then what stresses me out is generally just getting enough words in the time I have. If I’m writing for a specific story, I’m stressed about getting my details correct. I try to keep copious notes, but I have yet to find a way to organize them so that I can keep them all straight. I can’t outline ahead of time (it just doesn’t work for me) so my characters become who they are as I write them. It makes keeping a profile on them difficult.

What delights me is learning who my characters are and what challenges they face. It’s awesome to see them become their own people in front of my eyes as their stories pour out of my fingers. It’s really cool. And I like happy endings, so it’s also great to see those happy endings come to fruition.

Richard: I feel like I just talked about this during the TMI Tuesday roundup. Time management is the biggest thing for stress. Between our million words goal, the blogs, and trying to keep up on my MFA (and trying to balance between writing a half a million words, while making sure at least ten thousand or so a month aren’t total garbage) it’s a lot of word balls to keep in the air. Going back to “regular” work, moving to the new apartment, and all the other stuff in life also means I’m a lot busier. Getting 50 or 100K in a month is a lot easier when you don’t have to commute, can do the dishes on your lunch break, etc.

My biggest delight is when I hit on a character’s voice just right. I can be prone to long, wishy washy dialogue and it’s nice when I hit a sentence that feels good. Doubly so when it happens with both people in a conversation at once.

What are your stresses and delights when writing? Drop them in the comments!

The Insecure Writer’s Support Group #IWSG

The Insecure Writer's Support Group

We’re back for an 8th month of The Insecure Writer’s Support Group! It’s hard to believe it’s been 2/3 of a year!

If you’d like to chime in and let us know your answers to the questions or drop a link to your post if you’re participating, please do so in the comments! And check out the IWSG website for more answers!


November 3rd: What’s harder to do, coming up with your book title or writing the blurb?

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The Insecure Writer’s Support Group #IWSG

The Insecure Writer's Support Group

We’re back for a 7th month of The Insecure Writer’s Support Group, and we’re right on time!

If you’d like to chime in and let us know your answers to the questions or drop a link to your post if you’re participating, please do so in the comments! And check out the IWSG website for more answers!


October 6 question – In your writing, where do you draw the line, with either topics or language?

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The Insecure Writer’s Support Group #IWSG

The Insecure Writer's Support Group

We’re back for a sixth month of The Insecure Writer’s Support Group, and we’re a little late. We had a great run of daily posts, but…all good things must come to an end. But don’t worry. We aren’t going away, and we’ll be resuming regular posts this week, but every day just might not be possible. Life, you know?

If you’d like to chime in and let us know your answers to the questions or drop a link to your post if you’re participating, please do so in the comments! And check out the IWSG website for more answers!


September 1st: How do you define success as a writer? Is it holding your book in your hand? Having a short story published? Making a certain amount of income from your writing?

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The Insecure Writer’s Support Group #IWSG

The Insecure Writer's Support Group

We’re back for a fifth month of The Insecure Writer’s Support Group!

If you’d like to chime in and let us know your answers to the questions or drop a link to your post if you’re participating, please do so in the comments! And check out the IWSG website for more answers!


August 4 question – What is your favorite writing craft book? Think of a book that every time you read it you learn something or you are inspired to write or try the new technique. And why?

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The Insecure Writer’s Support Group #IWSG

The Insecure Writer's Support Group

We’re back for a third month of The Insecure Writer’s Support Group! Getting into the groove!

If you’d like to chime in and let us know your answers to the questions or drop a link to your post if you’re participating, please do so in the comments! And check out the IWSG website for more answers!


June 2 – For how long do you shelve your first draft, before reading it and re-drafting? Is this dependent on your writing experience and the number of stories/books under your belt?

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The Insecure Writer’s Support Group #IWSG

The Insecure Writer's Support Group

We’re back for a second month of The Insecure Writer’s Support Group! We’re mostly even on time for this one!

If you’d like to chime in and let us know your answers to the questions or drop a link to your post if you’re participating, please do so in the comments! And check out the IWSG website for more answers!


May 5 – Have any of your readers ever responded to your writing in a way that you didn’t expect? If so, did it surprise you?

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