TMI Tuesday: April 20th, 2021

Money Honey

  1. Has money ever ruined a relationship for you?

Jayden: I don’t think so.

Richard: Nope

2. Have you ever successfully negotiated a pay raise?

Jayden: I got lucky and didn’t have to, since they offered me above my negotiation target.

Richard: No, I’ve tried a few times, but never really had that kind of job.

3. What piece of MONEY advice would you tell your younger self?

Jayden: You don’t need all that stuff.

Richard: Don’t live with someone that can’t cover their share of the rent.

4. Have you ever paid for sex or been paid for sex?

Jayden: Not in cold hard cash.

Richard: One time I paid a girl in make outs for gossip.

5. Are you hiding a financial secret?

Jayden: No.

Richard: No. I don’t have anyone to hide stuff from.

Bonus: Have you made someone smile today? If not, please take up the challenge and make someone smile.

Jayden: I just made people smile telling a story.

Richard: I fixed someone’s Zoom!

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TMI Tuesday: April 13th, 2021

1. What is an ideal weekend for you?

Jayden: This is an interesting question. My ideals have changed a lot in the past few months. But, a perfect weekend for me involves some times with friends, good food, and lots of laughs.

Richard: I think that depends on my mood. Some weekends, it’s fun to barely get out of bed. Others it’s fun to wake up somewhere I’ve never been. I think I should get to bake regardless though.

2. What is the craziest job you would consider taking?

Jayden: I’m not super exciting when it comes to this kind of question. I think quitting my day job to be a full-time writer would be super crazy!

Richard: Professional mascot. What could be crazier than being Gritty?

3. Where would you rate yourself as a kisser on a scale of 1 to 10? (10 being the best kisser ever!)

Jayden: Uh, this is a difficult question. I don’t think super highly of myself, typically. So I’d say like a 4. Richard can feel free to disagree.

Richard: Jayden is at least an eight out of ten. Minimal slobber, and good use of tongue. I’m going to say seven out of ten for me.

4. What do you like most and least about your significant other’s cooking?

Jayden: Well, this is awkward. 😉 Richard is my significant other! The thing I like most is also the thing I like least, haha. He makes me try new things (yay) like vegetables (blah). But seriously, I love Richard’s cooking. He makes a lot of different things I’m not used to eating and many of them are a lot healthier than what I would make myself.

Wait! I know something I dislike! He makes a lot of dishes and we don’t have a dishwasher. 😉

Richard: Least favorite, it doesn’t happen very often. Most favorite, it’s very different from mine, so it’s fun to try new recipes.

5. How has smartphone photography changed your world?

Jayden: I take pictures a lot. It’s fun to watch my daughter grow up in photos that wouldn’t have existed if it weren’t for smartphone photography.

Richard: As a person with atrocious handwriting, it’s nice to be able to take pictures of stuff like my license plate and not go, “Is that a Q or a 9?”

Bonus: What is a good life?

Jayden: Oh boy. This is another tough question. A good life is one filled with happiness, love, companionship, and friendship. One where you leave the world a little bit better than it would be without you.

Richard: One where you don’t have to worry about too much day to day stuff (food, housing, etc.) and can make the world a better place.

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TMI Tuesday: April 6th, 2021

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1. What is your favorite dessert? Why?

Jayden: Pecan pie bread pudding. Because pecan pie and bread pudding are two of my favorite things.

Richard: Teaberry ice cream with rainbow jimmies because it tastes like Pepto.

2. What is your favorite nickname to be called?

Jayden: Bead Goddess

Richard: NaNoDad

(These are the nicknames our local writing group have given us.)

3. What is your favorite nickname for your favorite person?

Jayden: Bipwiget (which is what I call Richard)

Richard: Pineapple (which is what I call Jayden)

4. Who makes you laugh the most?

Jayden: Richard

Richard: Sam, one of my writing friends

5. What is something common from your childhood that will seem strange to millennials?

Jayden & Richard: We’re in our 30s and we are millennials.

Bonus: What is your idea of heaven?

Jayden: Have you watched The Good Place? That. (If you haven’t, YOU SHOULD. Also, there’s a podcast. It’s amazing.)

Richard: Heaven is a Place on Earth Jokes aside, I always thought Heaven would be different for each person, if it was real. What I like might be torture for someone else, and everyone wanting/liking the exact same thing is just a stock dystopian novel plot.

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TMI Tuesday: March 30, 2021

Would you rather:

Have sex with someone who never showers or someone who never brushes their teeth?

Jayden: This is tough. Bad breath and BO are both awful. I guess someone who never brushes their teeth. We can just…not kiss?

Richard: Never brushes their teeth because I could always put them in a gag or a hood or something.

Only have sex in the shower for the rest of your life or only have sex on the floor for the rest of your life?

Jayden: On the floor. I’m liable to slip in the shower and get hurt.

Richard: Floor, because we could have a designated area for sex that we kept clean and put a mat down on.

Cry every time you had sex or burp every time someone kissed you?

Jayden: Cry every time I had sex. Who knows, maybe it’s a good cry?

Richard: Cry every time I had sex. I don’t want to burp in my partner’s face. That’s much more awkward.

Find out the last person you had sex with was your long lost cousin or that the person you last had sex with was a brutal serial killer?

Jayden: I guess long lost cousin. We aren’t having kids anyway!

Richard: Cousin seems more stable for a long term relationship, but serial killer is hotter for a hookup.

Bonus: Would you rather always say what you are thinking or never be able to speak again?

Jayden: Oh damn. I couldn’t not speak, so I guess I’d go with always say what I’m thinking.

Richard: Always say what I was thinking. I’d probably get fired from my job, but I bet I could work the talk show circuit and write a book about it.

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TMI Tuesday: March 23, 2021

I wish my Job got eaten by a whale.

1. What was your first job?

Jayden: Wing girl- Counter service at a chicken and ribs restaurant.

Richard: Camp counselor

2. In your next life what will be your job?

Jayden: Musician

Richard: Afterlife RA. I’ll have to sign in everyone’s dates when they want to bring someone from The Bad Place to The Good Place.

3. What’s a favorite item in your workspace and why?

Jayden: My computer, it lets me do spreadsheets!

Richard: My singing bowl, it lets me annoy people!

4. What can you not stop thinking about?

Jayden: My Master’s dick! How delicious this tea is.

Richard: How hard Jayden bites. Chocolate.

5. What are you holding on to that you cannot let go– a person, a show, an item, a career, a book–anything?

Jayden: Happiness

Richard: Battletech

Bonus: Do you have a Twitter problem?

Jayden: No, I don’t use it nearly as much as I should.

Richard: I think Twitter is a problem.


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TMI Tuesday: March 16, 2021

Money, Money, Money

1. If you pay someone to do one chore what would it be?

Jayden: Cleaning

Richard: Dishes

2. If I gave you $1,000,000 usd, how much would you give to charity?

Jayden: I’d try to give about 25%.

Richard: I don’t know that I’d give any up front. I think I’d like to find a specific cause that I want to support and try to give them what they needed, as opposed to just throwing an arbitrary number.

3. What is the most annoying thing your (current or past) partner does with money?

Jayden: Not helping with the budget, but complaining that he wasn’t “allowed” to buy things he wanted.

Richard: I dated a girl who had tends of thousands of dollars in the bank, and a similar amount of credit card date. She refused to use her savings to pay down the debt, and just made the minimal payments, racking up interest.

4. What is something you bought as a couple but would be embarrassed for your parents to know?

Both: We haven’t bought very much together yet. Ummm, a fancy laser printer?

5. What money-related thing have you hid from your significant other?

Jayden: I once bought a fair of fuck-me-shoes and didn’t tell my partner.

Richard: For a while I was working a job where I could pretty much set my own hours. I definitely pretended to work most days, but sometimes I just kinda bummed around for most of a week.

Bonus: If you received $1,000,000 right now would you tell people? Why or why not?

Jayden: I would tell as few people as possible, but I’m too open of a person to keep it a secret. I would want to invest it to better my future and telling too many people would make that difficult.

Richard: I’d probably just tell Jayden. Other than that, I’d have to figure out what I was doing with it, etc. I’d probably pretend I got a smaller amount. Enough to celebrate, but not life changing money. I wouldn’t want it to affect my relationships.


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TMI Tuesday: March 9, 2021

Oh you sexy thangs!

1. Pick your next sexual encounter. Only pick one, then tell us why that is your choice.
a. Blindfolded during oral sex
b. Sex in a hot tub
c. Sex in an elevator
d. Phone sex
e. Bringing in a third party

Jayden: Sex in a hot tub! I just need a hot tub. (Okay, so I would prefer a whirlpool bathtub. Much more sanitary.)

Richard: Sex in an elevator! That confined space, and sometimes mirrors, make it sound sexy. It’s mostly private, but in a public place. Also, it’s the only one I haven’t done. Gotta try new things.

2. When could having sex with an ex be a good thing?

Jayden: I have a good physical relationship with an ex before. He and I were not a good couple. But the sex was good. Being friends with benefits worked out well for us for a while, and now we’re actually friends.

Richard: Sure. I’ve had ex-sex with about half my exes, and I don’t think I ever regretted it.

3. Have you ever had sex in a public toilet? No judgment. (Oooh you nasty!)

Jayden: Only oral. Actually, we might have tried for more, but we only did oral. Teenagers!

Richard: When I was in college, my girlfriend and I were both RAs. Since I went to the worst university on the planet, we didn’t get our own rooms. We did, however, have access to the master keys, and there was a public bathroom that was always locked. We let ourselves in a few times when we couldn’t get rid of our roomies.

4. Car sex is hot or not?

Jayden: Ehhh. Usually it’s too crowded in the car and uncomfortable. I might be a bit *cough* of a pain slut, but that’s not a good type of pain.

Richard: I’ve tried once or twice and always gave up since it was a pain in the ass, so I guess not.

5. What is the most appealing thing about you?

Jayden: I’m a friendly person who likes to smile a lot. I like making other people feel good–sexually and not sexually.

Richard: I think it’s my energy. I’m good at getting people to get out and do things they want to do, but need a push for.

Bonus: Some time ago in Geneva, Switzerland, a coffee shop opened where you can get a hot, delicious cup of coffee, with a side of hot, delicious blowjob. That’s right, after you order your coffee you use an ipad to select the sex worker that you want to have give you the blowjob.  A – Would you visit this coffee shop? B – Would you get the blowjob?

Jayden: Well, I don’t have a dick, so… But let’s assume that they mean you get oral from a sex worker. Sure, why not? Sex work is legitimate work and should be treated as such. No shame!

Richard: A: Sure, why not? B: If I only went once, yes. If I was going regularly, I’m sure not every time. I’m curious how it’d be with a professional. I’ve never been able to climax from oral, so maybe this would be my chance.


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TMI Tuesday: March 2, 2021

You’re back! Excellent.


This week’s TMI Tuesday

It’s definitely YOU

1. For you, what would be the worst store to have a $1,000 gift card for?

Richard: The Warhammer store. The main thing keeping me from playing is knowing I’d spend way too much money on it if I did.

Jayden: Forever 21, none of those clothes would ever fit me.

2. Besides a raise or more vacation time, what is the best perk a company can offer you?

Richard: Permanent work from home.

Jayden: Free/better health plan.

3. What are you most likely very wrong about?

Richard: Getting into grad school.

Jayden: Things are totally going to calm down soon.

4. What is something you borrowed but never gave back?

Richard: My ex girlfriend’s desk.

Jayden: My ex’s tape measure.

Bonus: What have you struggled with your entire life?

Richard: Gravity.

Jayden: My weight and self esteem.


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Checking In

Hello dear readers, Jayden here to give you an update on how things are going for Richard and I in the realm of writing. Back on New Year’s Eve, I had the pleasure of introducing Richard and sharing some of our writing goals for 2021. We wanted to take some time to check in with you all and give you an update of how we’ve been doing.

I will freely admit that consistent writing hasn’t been going very well, but that’s primarily due to some major life changes for both of us, including that we moved in together about a week ago! But now that we’re settling in and finding new routines, I hope that our word counts will jump up.

1 Million Words!

We started the challenge of writing 1,000,000 words in 2021. When I attempted this last year mostly on my own, I was super on track in January! And then February I slipped a little. And then quarantine… And yeah, that was it.

This year, we did not start off super strong, but I have confidence in Richard and I that we can catch up. We wrote 31,445 words in January and 24,173 in February. I guess technically we could write a few more words tonight, but I don’t suspect there will be a ton more coming in today.

Thank you Richard!

I was excited to announce Richard joining me two months ago, but I am super happy to say that it’s been working out better than I ever thought it could. We have posted every Tuesday/Thursday/Saturday, and some additional days. That’s a *huge* improvement over my previous blogging habits, and we’ve seen that with more regular readers. So thanks to all of you who are reading! But I have to give a lot of the credit to Richard, who has sat with me while I dragged out the words to make my personal posts and has collaborated with me as we’ve done our collab posts sometimes wrapping things up just minutes before the scheduled post. I couldn’t have done it without you!

Looking Ahead…

We are excited to answer some questions for you every day of March thanks to Marquessa Matthews. Make sure you check back daily to learn a little more about Richard and I.

In addition, we’ll still be posting on our regular schedule:

Tuesdays:We will both answer the questions from the TMI Tuesday blog.
Thursdays:Stop by every Thursday for one-shots from Richard!
Saturdays:Collaborative Writing – Stories we write together.

And then in April, we’ll take a break from that schedule because we’ll be doing the A to Z Blog Challenge! The Theme Reveal goes up on March 8th! Get excited! I am looking forward to generating more content!

TMI Tuesday 2/23/2021

Just Wondering…

1. What food did you eat so much of that now you hate it?

Jayden: I don’t think there’s anything I hate because I ate it too much, but there are foods I can only eat occasionally, like egg rolls.

Richard: I really don’t think that food exists for me, but I’ll think about it.

2. What two films would you like to combine into one?

SWITCH!

Richard: The Mummy and Indiana Jones

Jayden: I’m bad at these types of things. I’m going to say Indiana Jones and National Treasure, but I cheated and stole the idea from Richard.

3. What songs do you feel compelled to sing along with when you hear them, even if you do not know all the words?

Jayden: Don’t Stop Believing, I think I know all the words, but I still have to belt it.

Richard: Total Eclipse of the Heart

4. What is the weirdest place you have ever slept?

Jayden: At the dining room table, with my forehead on my friend’s shoulder.

Richard: On top of a table at a pottery kiln.

5. Who is the weirdest person you have ever slept with, and why do you say this?

Jayden: I grew up with a guy almost like siblings. We took family vacations together and everything. Later we dated. In some ways it was kind of weird, but it didn’t last forever.

Richard: In college, I hooked up with a girl whose only erogenous zone was her neck. She didn’t really enjoy intercourse, but she could orgasm from having her neck nibbled very easily.

Bonus: What do you think you do better than 90% of people?

Jayden: Spreadsheets! (But Richard says Beads.)

Richard: GIFs


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TMI Tuesday 2/16/2021

That's Life

1. Who do you prefer to discuss politics with?
a. partner
b. best friend
c. co-workers
d. strangers
e. parents

Jayden: None of the above? I’ll talk politics, but I don’t prefer to do it. I do talk with my close friends and partners though.

Richard: Strangers, because then you can get into pointless internet arguments with them.

2. Which is more offensive to you: book burning or flag burning? Why?

Jayden: Book burning. I’m an author, so… Plus, book burning is generally a censorship issue.

Richard: Book burning, because I don’t believe in censorship.

3. Complete the sentence. Most of all, I want to meet someone who deserves my _____ :
a. trust.
b. loyalty.
c. admiration.
d. love.

Jayden: Trust. It doesn’t matter what type of relationship I’m forming, trust is important.

Richard: Trust, because trustworthy people can be difficult to find.

4. Which kind of fidelity (being faithful) is more important to you?
a. Physical/Sexual.
b. Mental/Emotional.
c. Neither is important.
d. Both are equally important.

Jayden: I would say d. Both are equally important. I was going to say that physical/sexual is maybe slightly more important to me as a poly person, but… then I went the other way. So, yeah. Equally important.

Richard: b. Mental/Emotional because no dick is that good.

5. Would you avoid all contact with an ex if your current significant other asked you to?
a. Yes, of course!
b. No. This would be an unacceptable demand.
c. Only if their justification seems reasonable.

Jayden: b. No one gets to dictate who I can be friends with. I can go ahead and say Richard is going to say the same thing.

Richard: b. I had that argument with an ex and I stuck to my guns then and I would stick to them now in any other relationship.

Bonus: If you were to die, the person going through your belongings would be shocked to find _____ ?

Jayden: I don’t know that they’d be shocked by anything, honestly. I’m pretty open with the people closest to me.

Richard: A stack of cat traps.


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TMI Tuesday 2/09/2021

Flashback TMI Tuesday from April 9, 2013.

If, Ands, and Butts

1. If you had a magic beauty wand, what would you give yourself?
a. Shinier hair, hands down.
b. Glowing, soft skin–pass the moisturizer dude.
c. Brighter eyes, with no crows feet—I want to look less tired.
d. Nada. I love what I’ve got.

Jayden: My eyes are my best feature, so I’d pick b – soft, touchable skin. Mmm.

Richard: B, also skin. My skin is terrible.

2. If you were spring cleaning your life what five things would you throw out?

Jayden: Drama, jealousy, clutter, cat dander (but not the cats!), and miscommunication.

Richard: Deadlines, half the stuff in my kitchen, Covid, my boss, ants

3. If money were no object, what kind of house would you buy?

Jayden: One that has enough space to store my copious amounts of stuff. One that has space for a music studio, an office, and plenty of space for entertaining. But I don’t need a mansion.

Richard: A flying castle.

4. Have you ever visited an erotic massage parlor AND had a “happy ending”?

Jayden: That sounds like #LifeGoals to me…

Richard: I have not, but I’d give it a try.

Bonus: Using the handy chart, what is your butt type, spanked or not?

Spankification: Types of Spanked Butts by Dioneo Daspanca, 2011
Spankification: Author of original types of butts poster unknown.
Types of Spanked Butts by Dioneo Daspanca, 2011

Jayden: I…don’t know. Richard?

Richard: I like giving you Down-Unders. What kind of butt do I have?

Jayden: I’d give you Hot Tamale, but these are pretty feminine butts and yours isn’t very feminine. But I think that’s the closest.


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TMI Tuesday 2/02/2021

1. Would you rather go on holidays to the beach with no bathers or in the mountains with no jacket?

Jayden: Mountains with no jacket. I don’t like the beach anyway, so I’d rather be in the mountains.

Richard: Beach with no bathers. I don’t mind being naked at the beach, but I don’t want to be freezing up in the mountains.

2. Would you rather not be able to eat chocolate for a year or have to eat your least favourite vegetable every day for a month?

Jayden: No chocolate for a year. I’m allergic anyway.

Richard: Also no chocolate. There are other yummy sweets out there to make up for it, but nothing will ever save cauliflower. Jayden has informed me I should try it fried.

3. Would you rather only be able to have sex for five minute increments on any given day for a year or only be able to have sex for five hour increments the rest of your life?

Jayden: Five hours, I’d never get off otherwise.

Richard: Can I loophole it and do multiple five minute increments in a row, or with a short break for some making out or something?

4. Would you rather not be allowed to touch your partner’s genitals except with your own or have the reverse applied to them?

Jayden: Reverse, because I like to be able to touch.

Richard: Also reverse, since Jayden doesn’t really get off from penetration.

5.  Would you rather go on a hike barefooted or spend the day at a water park fully clothed?

Jayden: Waterpark fully clothed. I generally don’t do well barefoot, and once your clothes are wet it doesn’t really matter.

Richard: Same. I’ve done water in shorts and a t-shirt before, and it was fun.

Bonus: Would you rather receive an alert every time your parents have sex or have your kids alerted every time YOU have sex?

Jayden: I would rather know when my parents have sex. It’ll probably be less than me, and I don’t want my kids to know.

Richard: I’d rather have my kids know. I don’t have any, and if I do, it won’t be an issue for the first couple years at least.


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TMI Tuesday 1/19/2021

1. When was the last time you tried something new?

Jayden: I try new things all the time. I especially love to try new things in the bedroom. Maybe you’ll be lucky and I’ll share some stories. 😉

Richard: Technically an old thing, but I tried on one of my favorite t-shirts from college today. I didn’t think I’d ever fit in it again, but I made it.

2. Who do you sometimes compare yourself to?

Jayden: My mom. In some ways we’re a lot alike, and in other ways, we’re total opposites.

Richard: Everyone. I am a terrible comparer.

3. What gets you excited about life?

Jayden: Love. There isn’t enough love in the world.

Richard: 80s power ballads. I’m partial to Pat Benatar, but most of them work.

4. Are you satisfied with your work?

Jayden: Yes. I got a new job in 2020, and I love it.

Richard: Nope. But I’m going back to school, and I’ll be actively looking for a new one soon, so hopefully this can be my last year.

5. What have people most often praised you for?

Jayden: My openness and caring for others. I guess there’s a bit of irony saying that here where I’m mostly anonymous.

Richard: My patience.

Bonus: When you think of your home, what immediately comes to mind?

Jayden: Lilacs and dogwood flowers. Mostly because they invoke a feeling of safety and security.

Richard: Cooking! Because nothing brings people together like food, and I’m pretty sure Jayden is going to put family, and I don’t want the same answer.

(Jayden: Ha! You were wrong, Richard!)


Last week’s answer is: Salmon – We were right! We both said Salmon! See the original picture and other TMI Tuesday blogs at the link below:

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TMI Tuesday 1/11/2021

DEEP THINK

1. First question relates to the photo above–what is it?

Jayden: Uhh, I’m torn between grapefruit and salmon.

Richard: I’m going to say shrimp or salmon. That white fluffy part looks kinda shrimpy.

2. Should we be signalling our existence to alien life? Why?

Jayden: After 2020, we should just lay low and not tempt there to be more shenanigans.

Richard: Obligatory, “I’m a smut writer, not a scientist” disclaimer. Yes, but only because it’s a moot point. We can barely make it to the moon, but we can look for life in other galaxies. We’ve been blasting signals into the cosmos for decades already, and will most likely continue to get “louder” even if we’re not specifically trying to signal. It seems like anyone advanced enough to actually get here from however many light years away won’t have a problem finding us.

3. What is one thing you do not understand about yourself?

Jayden: I don’t understand … I don’t know. I don’t understand how other people see me the way they do.

Richard: How I’ve managed to make it this far mostly intact and successfully.

4. What weird food combinations do you really enjoy?

Jayden: I like a little bit of mayo on meatball sandwiches. (A bit of mayo, meatballs, parmesan cheese, American cheese, and marinara sauce.) Try it. Trust me.

Richard: Chocolate ice cream on apple pie. My grandfather liked it, and supposedly almost got refused by a server once over it. It’s tasty, and it’s a nice way to remember him.

5. What are two of your go-to strategies to help make big decisions?

Jayden: Journaling and therapy. God I love therapy.

Richard: Lists and thinking way too long after I’ve already made my mind up.

Bonus: How replaceable are you?

Jayden: Oh, well, this is a question that pokes at my insecurities. I think I’m easily replaceable. In fact, I’ve been replaced many times over in relationships. I’m grateful to have some partners now who tell me otherwise, but it’s probably my biggest worry.

Richard: My brain says completely, but my fingers don’t want to type it. I guess not at all? If someone else asked me if they were replaceable, I’d say, “no, no one else is as good at being you as you,” (I think that’s a Sesame Street lyric) so I’m going to try to be as kind to myself as I would someone else.

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TMI Tuesday

Whew! We made it out of 2020. Thank you to Corrupting Mrs. Jones blog for this week’s TMI Tuesday questions.

HAPPY NEW YEAR 2021

1. What was the best part of your holiday season?

Jayden: Spending it with some very good new friends. ❤

Richard: Getting to try goose for the first time!

2. Did you have the opportunity to get down and dirty over the holidays? Please share.

Jayden: Oh yes. Several times, in fact. It was a little unexpected. Maybe it will be a blog post. What do you think, Richard?

Richard: I want to know how you didn’t expect to “get down and dirty” when you had me over for as many nights as you did. Honestly, I think we came in under par.

Jayden: But you weren’t supposed to stay over as many times as you did!

3. You receive a gift from a family member that is exactly what you DID NOT want. Do you:
a. Smile politely and bin it at the first opportunity?
b. Say thank you and re-gift it next year?
c. Do some detective work and return it at the first opportunity?
d. Try and tactfully suggest something more appropriate for next time?

Jayden: Either b or c. If I can return it, I will, but I will be polite and say thank you, of course!

Richard: C. Most stores will take anything without a receipt this time of year, as long as it’s in their system, so it’s really not much detective work.

4. Sex toys as gifts yea or nay? Was there a time when you unexpectedly opened something R-rated in front of your family? Tell us about it.

Jayden: Sure! If it’s for a partner or close friend. I have never opened something R-rated in front of my family though. My friends and partners know better than to give me something like that at the wrong time.

Richard: I feel like a partner must’ve gotten me something to use with/on them at some point, but I honestly can’t remember a specific time. Either way, totally fine with it. My partners have all been good about keeping my gifts in front of family to a soft PG. So far…

5. What is the best present your significant other has given you?

Jayden: Love. Attention. Time. Things are nice (and I love the jewelry and flowers I’ve received), but having quality time means so much.

Richard: Going off what Jayden said: Family. I don’t come from the healthiest family, and the holidays have been pretty rough for me for the last decade or so. Being able to spend the holidays somewhere happy, where everyone doesn’t spend the whole time screaming at each other, walking on eggshells, or trying to escape, is the best gift.

Bonus:  Share your New Year’s resolution(s) or reasons why you do not make them.

Jayden: Well, we shared our writing resolutions on New Year’s Day, so I’ll still with that. I didn’t make any others.

Richard: I do a lot of goal setting throughout the year, but I usually skip out on New Year’s resolutions. With all the holidays and craziness, I’d rather wait for things to settle and start a new goal in February.

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1. What is the dumbest thing you are reading and writing right now? (uh-huh I know what you’re thinking :p)

Um, writing? I was going to write a really stupid letter, but I think I’m not going to write that now. And other than that, I write a ton of fluff, so that’s maybe stupid, but I don’t think so, and I doubt you do either. As for reading, I’m reading a good novel right now. At least, I hope it’s good. My new boyfriend bought it for me for Christmas, and he likes it, so hopefully I will, too. I’m only a few pages in so far.

2. If you were to start your own country who would sing your national anthem?

Probably me, even though I don’t like singing in public, I’d probably just sing it myself. Plus, no issues with royalties!

3. If you were to be eaten by an animal of your choice (and you will die), what animal will eat you? Why?

A whale. I love them. So like, at least I’d be feeding one.

4. What word makes you smile?

Asparagus. Sorry, it’s an inside joke.

5. What word makes you cringe?

Cupcake. Weird, I know. But it’s a thing. I’ll get over it.

Bonus: Will you board the love train?

Always. Everyone should love lots of people. I’m ALL about love. And in fact, have fallen in love (again) recently. I’m full of love to give and have many people giving me love, so yes, let’s board the love train!

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1. What is your phone screensaver at the moment?
It’s just pretty colors. Nothing fancy.

2. What is currently on your playlist? (list top 5)
Fallin’ All In You – Shawn Mendes
Fire Escape – Andrew McMahon in the Wilderness
Smoke the Clears – Andy Grammer
Ripple in the Water – Pat Monahan
Don’t You Worry Child – Swedish House Mafia

3. What are your last three internet searches?
Facebook – looking for someone who followed me
PUSH – Prompts Unity Scavenger Hunt
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4. What is your favorite sandwich filling?
Peanut butter and jelly, triple berry, but I’m not picky.

5. What is one staple item all men should own?
A screw driver

Bonus: If you couldn’t be convicted of any one type of crime, what criminal charge would you like to be immune to?

I would want to be immune to public indecency. Public sex is definitely something that’s alluring to me, but sooo risky. (And yes, there is the factor of consent. But you may notice that there are a lot of rooms in my stories where people can have sex and be watched.)

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1. The best part of your job is _____ .

Ack! See, I don’t want to talk about my day job here! (Actually, more on that tomorrow.) So, let’s pretend that writing is my full time job (Ha!). The best part is getting feedback and knowing that I brought joy to someone’s life.

2. My favorite quote is _____ .

Uh. I don’t know that I’ve ever had one. I’ll have to put some thought into it…

Okay, I did some googling and thinking and I picked one (author unknown): I choose you. And I’ll choose you, over and over and over. Without pause, without a doubt, in a heartbeat. I’ll keep choosing you.

Love is forefront on my mind lately (that’s what happens when you fall rapidly in love). But so many quotes and thoughts about love center around that ONE person who “completes” you and other such BS. I have one person who I’ve been in love with for over 15 years. I choose him every day, and I will continue to choose him. But I also choose several other partners who enrich our lives. We choose those partners together. Anyway, that’s what I like about this quote–it doesn’t suppose that there’s only one person involved. (Uh oh, I feel a rant coming on… Maybe I should save that for another blog post… stay tuned. Maybe Thursday.)

3. The best part of my day is _____ .

The best part of my day is usually bedtime. It’s the time I get to spend with the person/people I love. Being cuddled and touched (often not sexually) is the best feeling in the world for me. And I am lucky enough to have several partners who offer me that. Very, very lucky. Lucky enough that I often worry no one deserves this much love.

4. What is the hardest part of your job? How do you deal with it?

The hardest part of writing is fact checking. Cross checking details, “Was she wearing pink or green?” I once had a main character change hair color halfway through the book. It wasn’t even remotely intentional. Whoops! The problem for me is that I tend to write more about feelings and emotions than about physical appearance. On one hand, I like that because it offers the reader the opportunity to put themselves in the shoes of the main character. The moment I’ve described her as a brunette, my blonde readers aren’t picturing themselves anymore. I don’t know if it’s “right” or “wrong” in terms of writing, but it’s the way I like to write.

So how do I deal with it? Well, for starters, I stopped caring what other people think. Maybe that’s stupid. I want people to buy my books (obviously). But I also like the advice to write what you want to read. So I do. And if it doesn’t fit with what publishers want (Hint: It doesn’t), then I’ll publish it myself (I do).

In terms of fact checking myself, I keep a side by side view document where I keep detailed notes on my character’s physical and mental characteristics, their life experiences, etc. I also keep an outline of what’s happening in each chapter. And when I wrote my first choose your own adventure, I kept a literal note card (3×5) for each chapter. Let me tell you how much fun that way! (A lot of fun, actually…)

5. You must write a “how to guide” about something for which you have expertise. What is this guide about or tell us the title?

Ack. I don’t know that I feel like an expert on much. Not much I would talk about here. I think I would probably write a how to guide titled, “How to be uniquely yourself when the world wants to put labels on you.” How’s that?

Bonus: What would you name your boat?

The Sea Rose

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1. How replaceable are you?

How replaceable am I, or how replaceable do I feel? Those are two totally different answers. I am one of a kind. I’m unique. I’m special. But most of the time, I feel like there’s someone better out there. Lots of someones, in fact. When will that friend/partner find someone better and move on? I try to push those thoughts aside and my current partners are excellent at reassuring me. But I often feel replaceable.

2. Does jealously have value in driving humans to improve themselves or is it a purely negative emotion?

I don’t know if it’s purely negative. I think it depends on what you do with it. If you feel jealous that someone accomplished something and you didn’t, maybe it will drive you to try harder and put forth more effort. If it makes you angry and you give up or treat someone else badly because of it, then it’s not positive. As with most things, it’s what you do with the emotion that makes the difference.

3. A section of your life’s memories needs to be erased, which era will you elect to have erased?
a. childhood memories – age 3 to 12
b. teen and young adult years – age 13 to 23
c. adult – age 24 to 35

Well. If I could break up (b) a little more, I would go with that. But I met my husband in that range. I got engaged and married. I wouldn’t want to erase those memories. And I’m not 35 yet. So, I guess (a) then.

4. With no laws or rules to influence your behavior, how do you think you would behave?

Absolutely. I might have some public sex though. Okay, I definitely would have some public sex. (Don’t worry, I’d make sure it was in an area with no kids!) I would also shout from the rooftops about the people I love. But since I’m married, I can’t do that.

5. Does anonymity encourage people to misbehave or does it reveal how people would choose to act all the time if they could?

I think it’s the latter. If people are willing to misbehave because of the anonymity, then that’s who they truly are.

Bonus: In the time of coronavirus pandemic, what are you rocking–homemade face covering or manufactured mask?

I’m working with manufactured until my homemade ones come in from a family member.

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