The author of TMI Tuesday has decided to end her reign, but we have decided to continue on, going back to the archives. We’re going to continue with 2012, even though it’s a day off since that was a leap year. So here we are with an archived set of questions.

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TMI Tuesday: December 4, 2012

Posted on December 3, 2012 by TMI Tuesday blog

Thank you to Swinging Gemma for this week’s TMI Tuesday questions.

Fantasy Anyone?

1. Do you think that acting out a fantasy can sometimes cause damage to a relationship?

Jayden: I’m sure it’s possible, especially if one person has a serious kink that the other one isn’t into, but I think Richard and I are safe. Let’s act them all out!

Richard: (I snuffed Jayden and am typing these responses for her.)

2. Some couples roleplay their fantasies rather than introducing another person into the relationship to live out their fantasies. Do you think that this is an acceptable substitute?

Jayden: Sure. It’s a lot of fun to roleplay things. Sometimes it’s fun to bring in another person. I’m not opposed to that (I mean, you can’t exactly roleplay a gang bang…), but I think it’s a good substitute in most circumstances.

Richard: I think it’s not just acceptable, but probably better for most people. “Headhunting” a person specifically to fulfill a fetish is impractical at best, and that most people don’t need an actual doctor/teacher/serial killer for their fantasies. 

3. Is there a particular movie or TV series or character from a movie or TV series that you fantasize about?

Jayden: Nah, I mostly just fantasize about Richard, so… But I do have a crush on Pierce Brosnan, I just don’t fantasize about him all the time.

Richard: Not really. There’s probably dozens I’ve jerked off to however many times over the years, but none that stand out.

4. Apart from the obvious things like child abuse, are there some things that are ‘off limits’ for a fantasy e.g. incest fantasies, age play, rape fantasies. Why/ why not?

Jayden: Probably. I can’t think of any that aren’t obvious. My limits are prettttty extensive.

Richard: Yeah, I can’t think of anything. If it’s not dangerous/illegal to act out, people should be free to go ahead. If it is… eh, situational. (I lean more towards RACK in general.)

5. What is the most taboo thing you have ever fantasized about doing?

Jayden: Is rape taboo? I feel like in kink communities, consensual non-consent is not very taboo. Breeding is a fun kink, though.

Richard: I feel like there’s a weird line here between “taboo” (which I associate more with “we don’t talk about this”) and actually criminal/immoral. Rape isn’t particularly taboo; you hear about rape in the news every day. It is, obviously, very criminal/immoral. Conversely, there’s a whole range of fantasies that are legal (or at least not first degree felonies) but that people are much more reluctant to talk about (most race/orientation/identity play type things). All this to say, probably the “worst” fantasy I’ve ever had would be some kind of “trapping” scenario, where someone is unable to say no to me, but also doesn’t want to, since that’s both technically rape, and also seems emotionally worse? Anything on the captor/prisoner, boss/subordinate, teacher/student, priest/nun type theme, but leaning into the coerced consent aspect.

6. Tell us about a fantasy that you have that you don’t ever see yourself actually acting out. Why do you think you will never act it out?

Jayden: Uhh, as established, if it’s not like child abuse, I’m down for almost anything.

Richard: Jayden will, regrettably, probably never be my harem sommelier, carefully selecting the appropriate partner for my current mood/kinks.

7. Have you ever pretended the person you were having sex with was someone else without telling them?

Jayden: Yeah… but not in a very long time. (Like multiple years.) It was pre-Richard.

Richard: I don’t think so. Like, I’ve certainly had fantasies flit around mid sex, but not, “this isn’t Jayden, it’s Becky,” or whatever.

8. Have you ever tried to make a fantasy a reality only to have it fail miserably? What happened?

Jayden: Yeah, I tried swinging with my ex once. It was not good. Not good at all. We got better at open relationships, but… in the end, it failed.

Richard: No specific fantasies, but I’ve certainly had individual kinks/scenes not work out at the time.

Bonus: Tell us about your most cherished fantasy. Did you ever live it out? Please give us all the juicy details because that is the kind of people we are.

Jayden: I don’t know if there’s a most cherished fantasy. Maybe the first time Richard and I were together, which I’ve written about in the past. A quick recap, though… He pissed in and used all three of my holes, which was so fucking hot, I can’t think about it without getting turned on. It wasn’t even a fantasy I knew I had until he sparked it in me.

Richard: Cherishing is a weird word to use to describe a fantasy. I would go with above sex sommelier. Which I may or may not flesh out before Jayden posts this.

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