TMI Tuesday: July 20, 2021

Time to share, it’s TMI Tuesday!

1. Tell us about something you absolutely will not share.

Jayden: The Batman Pants! Don’t worry, you’ll get to hear the story soon.

Richard: I don’t have an answer to this, so I’m just going to ask Jayden if she’ll share The Batman Pants with me. BECAUSE THEY ARE MY PANTS!

2. What is something you do not like to share but will begrudgingly do so?

Jayden: Richard’s food. It’s so good I want to eat it all. Tonight it was quiche, and oh my god. It was delicious.

Richard: Valentine’s candy. It’s adulterous.

3. What tradition makes you feel at home?

Jayden: I’m trying to think of non-holiday traditions, but that’s the biggest one that keeps coming to mind. I really love my family’s traditions for Christmas. We fill stockings for everyone and people open each item one at a time. It takes hours, but it’s so much fun. Most of the stuff is silly, some of it is useful, but it’s always a great time.

Richard: Laying on the floor and having my cat come head butt me as hard as she can.

4. What act/words/place makes you feel sexy?

Jayden: The way Richard looks at me like there’s nothing more in the world he wants. It’s so hot. The dark eyes. And then the way he holds me… Yeah. There’s nothing like it.

Richard: When Jayden puts her collar on. High up hotel rooms with floor to big windows.

5. Rank the following in order of compatibility you think you have with your significant other (or think about your most recent S.O.).
1 being most compatible, 5 being least compatible:
emotionally, intellectually, spiritually, financially and sexually

Jayden: most: emotionally, sexually, intellectually, spiritually, financially: least

Richard: most: sexually, intellectually, spiritually, emotionally, financially: least

For the record, we answered this blind so that neither could see the other’s answers until we’d written them. They look fairly different, but the only actual difference is where we put emotionally on the list.

Bonus: If you had a 25-hour day what would you do with your extra hour?

Jayden: Play the piano. I keep wanting to and just not getting to it!

Richard: Write, hopefully. Jayden would probably make me spend it making quiche though.

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TMI Tuesday: July 20, 2021

It’s Personal

1. Describe your phone lock screen.

Jayden: It’s a very pretty blue and white and green swirly background.

Richard: The default one.

2. What does your favorite coffee mug or tea cup look like? Post a pic.

Jayden: Well, I’m on vacation, so I can’t share a picture, but I like BIG mugs. Like, double size mugs.

Richard: We are on a writing retreat, which is clearly work, not vacation. My favorite mug is from the indie bookstore/cafe I worked at in college. I mostly drink wine out of it, since we used to keep a bottle under the counter for after hours.

3. Tell us about a regional food favorite of yours that you think the world simply must try.

Jayden: Pierogies! Dough stuffed with potatoes and sometimes cheese and/or onions. Delicious! I didn’t realize how regional they were until I went away to college and a lot of people hadn’t heard of them. They’re nearly a staple at home.

Richard: Soft pretzels. No one knows how to make them here. I don’t know what the problem is. It’s boiled bread dough. I’m going to make my own out of the sourdough someay.

4. How often do you journal?

Jayden: I used to journal weekly. Not so much anymore, but I did for years.

Richard: Neverish. I think the last time I sort of kept one was for a few months like two years ago.

5. How often do you blog?

Jayden: We are on a 19 day streak! It was 3 times a week before that, but I’ve really been trying to post every day.

Richard: And I try to do my other blog about once a week. Vacation and residency and everything has been a pain for that though.

Bonus: Does your blog act as your journal?

Jayden: Sometimes. Sometimes I write journal-y things. And actually, stay tuned because in August, our Saturday feature is going to be a journalistic account of Richard’s and my relationship. Oooooo.

Richard: I have a tab called “Erotic Journal Challenge” open right now, so I guess so.

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TMI Tuesday: July 13, 2021

Do your thing. Play TMI Tuesday.

1. Does your sex life need some fantasy? What kind of fantasy?

Jayden: Fantasy is fun. We occasionally do some scenes together that have some fantasy in them. Maybe I should write up some short scenes for some.

Richard: I am clearly Jayden’s number one fantasy, but it’s always fun to add a little extra. I think the one we’ve talked about the most recently is a CNC/abduction scene, but we haven’t actually carried it out yet.

2. What is eroticism for you?

Jayden: It’s that feeling of desire, of need that will drive you crazy. Sometimes it’s just being a little more aggressive than usual. And then sometimes it’s going into a full BDSM scene.

Richard: Eroticism is the difference between just getting off to get off, and taking the time, effort, etc. to enjoy yourself.

3. You are invited to a kink party, will you go?

Jayden: I assume so. I’ve wanted to go to a kink party for…as long as I can remember.

Richard: I have most or all of the other times I have been.

4. Your lover has tied your naked body down. What do you want to happen next?
a. You get tickled mercilessly
b. You are covered in whip cream and people lick the cream entirely from your naked body
c. Bind, blind, and tease your erogenous zones with an ice cube, feather, candle wax, tongue, etc.
d. A sex toy is used to penetrate you to orgasm

Jayden: Yes, yes, yes, and yes. Please?

Richard: C! Until I wriggle out, because I turn into a total brat when I sub.

5. In your sex life, do you go along with whatever your partner wants and needs or when necessary do you handle things to make sure you have thrilling sex?

Jayden: I generally don’t have to do anything to ensure thrilling sex for Richard and I. We do talk about fantasies and what we want and such, but he does most of the planning. And I like it that way.

Richard: I like to set things up myself. Since I’m the one doing most of the things, it’s better (and safer) for both of us.

Bonus: When is the last time you purchased a sex toy? What did you buy? Was it purchased online or at a store?

Jayden & Richard: I think our last one was bought online because we were looking for some specific things, but Jayden bought some in a store not tooo long ago. We prefer buying things in stores because it’s nice to see and feel something before purchasing, but the online selection is much more expansive.

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Ideal Inspiration Blogger Award

Thank you!

We would like to thank Helen from kinkywithatwist.com for nominating us for the Ideal Inspiration Blogger Award! I really enjoy Helen and Matt’s blog about kink and life. It’s always a joy to read!

Rules for the Award

  1. Thank the person who has nominated you and provide a link back to their blog.
  2. Answer their questions.
  3. Nominate up to 9 other bloggers and ask them 5 new questions.
  4. Notify the nominees through their blog by visiting and commenting on their blog.
  5. List the rules and display the “Ideal Inspiration Blogger Award” logo.

Helen’s Questions

  1. Will you be celebrating Pride Month? If so, how?
    1. Jayden: Yes! Absolutely. My local Pride festivals are both held in August, but I bought a very cute rainbow dress to wear.
    2. Richard: I assume Jayden will drag me to something. I generally try to avoid celebrating anything.
  2. The G7 summit is being held in Cornwall, and Cornwall is known for surfing. Have you ever tried surfing? How did you get on?
    1. Jayden: I have not tried surfing, except body surfing. I taught Richard to body surf when we went on our most recent vacation! It was a lot of fun, but I don’t think I have the balance for an actual surfboard.
    2. Richard: I have not. I’d like to give it a try though. Or wind surfing, or sky diving, I’m pretty much down for whatever.
  3. Cornwall is also famous for its Cornish pasties, but on Great British Bake-Off 2019, the contestants had to make their own pasties. If you were on the show, what would your pasty filling be?
    1. Jayden: Oh dear, I have no idea. I’m not good with cooking, and I only like baking because it comes with a specific recipe. I would probably do something like a pecan pie filling.
    2. Richard: Cream cheese/cheese danish filling.
  4. If you could change one thing about your blog, what would it be and why?
    1. Jayden: I would make it have more consistent content! Since bringing Richard on board, I am *much* more consistent than I used to be, but I would love to be able to put out daily content. It’s just…not really possible. We have talked about some ideas of how we could increase our content, but I would really like to get a backlog of content before I commit to that. Right now is a good time for me to get ahead on content, so maybe I can invest some time to do that. We’ll see.
    2. Richard: I move it off WordPress.
  5. What is your favourite daily routine, and why is it your favourite?
    1. Jayden: The snuggle alarm! I set an alarm for 15 minutes before I need to get up so that Richard and I can snuggle before I get out of bed. (I have to get up about 2 hours before him usually.) It’s a great way to start my day. And hey, if you would be so kind, fill out our survey about snuggling! We’re curious to know what other couples norms are when it comes to snuggling.
    2. Richard: I would like to get back to walking every day. I feel so much better if I can get a nice hourish walk in. It helps me come up with new ideas, have more energy, and improves my mood.

Our Questions

  1. How much do you like to snuggle?
  2. What’s your favorite place to go on Vacation?
  3. What is your favorite kink that you haven’t blogged about? (If you aren’t comfortable sharing your kinks, then share your favorite hobby you haven’t blogged about.)
  4. Do you think Jayden should go for her Doctorate? (Or, do you see a value in getting a Doctorate?)
  5. What do you hate most about blogging?

Nominations

We chose the following blogs that are my top choices for reading, and who are currently blogging regularly!

  1. Molly at https://mollysdailykiss.com/
  2. The Barefoot Sub at https://aleapoffaith.uk/
  3. Andrew at https://andrewlryan.wordpress.com/
  4. Nicki at https://nickigetsdistracted.com/
  5. Jamie at https://uniquelymaladjustedbutfun.blogspot.com/

TMI Tuesday: July 6, 2021

It’s International Kissing Day! Go plant one on someone, then play TMI Tuesday.

Making Waves


1. Are you happy with the number of people you have slept with?

Jayden: Sure. I lost count at some point and decided that I didn’t care enough to try to figure it out. I’m not even sure I have an estimate.

Richard: It seems okay. I haven’t thought about it much. It’ll probably go up a bit more over time.

2. Tell us a random fact about yourself.

Jayden: I have 9 3/4 toes. It’s genetic.

Richard: I can swallow my tongue.

3. Would you say you have an excessive need for stimulation and are you prone to boredom?

Jayden: I don’t remember the last time I was bored. I always have things to do.

Richard: Definitely. I’m bored any time I’m not doing like 3 things.

4. Do you have a history of promiscuous sexual behavior or wish you had?

Jayden: My history is pretty promiscuous. It’s settled a lot in the last few years.

Richard: I was semi-promiscuous.

5. How do you cope with a sex drought?
a. masturbation
b. sex droughts don’t bother me
c. try not to think about sex

Jayden: Uh. Well, see, I’ve never had a drought. I haven’t gone more than a month since I started having sex. I’m sure I would deal with it with masturbation though. I can’t go more than a couple days without losing my mind anymore.

Richard: A. Honestly, sometimes it’s more fun anyway.

Bonus: If you were a wave in the ocean would you be rough or calm?

Jayden: Calm probably. I like being smooth and calm.

Richard: I’ll be rough. *Whipissh*

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Magic number: 524

Why is 524 the magic number you ask? Back in late December, one of those silly memes went around that was “You’ll have sex X times in 2021 with someone whose name starts with the letter A!” Well. I went through until I found the number of times it gave me (Jayden) for someone whose name starts with [Richard’s actual first initial], and the magic number was 524.

I sent it to him a fit of madness. Ha! How funny! We could never have sex 524 times in a year! So by a week in, we decided to track it for the year.

I’ll spare you the daily counts, but the goal is 524. We have had sex* a total of 301 times. The average per day we need is 1.44, and we are currently at 1.66. Pretty soon, we’ll only need one per day to finish out the year with 524. (Richard: Thank God.)

(Jayden: Like you didn’t enjoy it. *cue eye roll*)

Crazy, right? I never thought we’d even come close, but now it seems that it’s likely we will. So cheer us on from the sidelines, and feel free to suggest fun things to try!


*We declared a “sex” as oral or penetrative sex or mutual masturbation, but it does not necessarily result in orgasm.

TMI Tuesday: June 29, 2021

Oh good, you’re here. I’m sure there is nothing you’d like to do more than TMI Tuesday.

It’s All Good

1. What’s the most stressful thing in your life right now?

Jayden: Deciding the trajectory of my professional life. In particular, what to get my doctorate in. Also, moving.

Richard: My cat has her first visit to the vet since I adopted her, and she doesn’t like being handled by me, let alone a stranger. I really don’t want them to have to put her under for her checkup.

2. True or False. The best way to get over an ex is to get under someone new.

Jayden: I’ve heard that before, but as a (mostly) poly person, my relationships have often overlapped, so I don’t know how that computes.

Richard: I like to take some me time when I have a break up, but a nice little fling never hurtd.

3. Is rebound sex empowering or does it leave you feeling lonelier?

Jayden: Like I said, most of my relationships have overlapped, so I don’t think I’ve ever had rebound sex. Pretty sure I wouldn’t want to. I don’t love casual sex most of the time.

Richard: I don’t think I’ve ever actually had rebound sex either. Usually my first time after a relationship is with already established FWB or similar.

4. Would you rather watch porn every night forever or never watch porn again?

Jayden: I’d have to really think about the last time I watched porn, so… never watch it again.

Richard: How much porn do I have to watch? How broadly are we defining porn? If I could watch some random 30 second clip, or count some weird artsy pseudo-porn, it wouldn’t be too bad.

5. Would you rather go to bed alone forever or share a bed with someone forever?

Jayden: Easiest question you’ve ever asked. Share a bed with someone forever. I hate sleeping alone.

Richard: Snuggles are essential for good sleep!

Bonus: You must pick one and explain. Would you rather your mom or your ex set up and run your dating apps?

Jayden: My ex. I love my mom, I do, but I’m not sure I trust her dating advice. My ex, despite all the reasons he was an ex, was usually a good judge of character.

Richard: One of my exes is also my one of my best friends, and several others are still decent friends who know me well. They’ll do fine.

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TMI Tuesday: June 22, 2021

I SEE YOU

1. What attracts you to a blog–makes you read it again and again or subscribe?

Jayden: I like blogs that aren’t too long, but that are interesting and raw and real. My favorite blogs are all ones where people are honest about who they are and what their lives are like. It’s fascinating.

Richard: I like to follow blogs that have a mix of people’s projects and the rest of their lives. Like someone that posts a comic/song/story once or twice a week and blogs about their family, vacations, etc. in between.

2. Life is short. What do you still need to get done before your life ends?

Jayden: So many things. I have recently decided I want to go back to school. I want to see my daughter grow up. I want to be a grandma. Richard is going to make the best Grandma, by the way. 😉 There are places in the world I want to see. The list just goes on and on.

Richard: I don’t really believe in the whole bucket list thing. Let’s go with skydiving, and playing a round in a Tesla pod (I expect this one to be disappointing). Jayden is going for her Doctorate. I feel like “back to school” is underselling it a little.

3. Which pick up line are you most likely to use? (You must pick one)
a. You’re beautiful/handsome. Can I tell you that again next Saturday over dinner?
b. Are you a magician? Because whenever I look at you, everyone else disappears!
c. If I had a star for every time you brightened my day, I would be holding a galaxy.
d. I would say God bless you, but it looks like he already did.

Jayden: I would pick a. I like the idea of meeting up over dinner.

Richard: I guess C. Mostly just because I can imagine saying it like a super villain. I WILL HOLD THE ENTIRE GALAXY IN THE PALM OF MY HAND! They’re all pretty terrible.

4. What makes you feel truly loved?

Jayden: Oh what a great question that I’ve been exploring a lot over the past year. Richard does a stellar job at it. I need to feel special, important, desired, respected.

Richard: Snuggles! Also helping with stuff around the house/apartment. I tend to wind up with the lion’s share of that kind of thing, so I appreciate when someone steps in.

5. What emotion do you experience the most?

Jayden: Happiness. There are some sad times of course, and some difficult ones, and scary ones, but the majority of the time, I am happy.

Richard: Regret that a meteor hasn’t obliterated me yet.

Bonus: In the word ‘scent’, which letter is silent? S or C?

Jayden: The c.

Richard: Neither? It’s pronounced skent, isn’t it?

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TMI Tuesday: June 15, 2021

Repost of TMI Tuesday from June 14, 2011–ten years ago!

What’s In A Name?

“What’s in a name? That which we call a rose by any other name would smell as sweet” –William Shakespeare, “Romeo and Juliet.”

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1. You have started your own sex themed business. What is the name of your business? What is your specialty service or product? BONUS: In one or two sentences, what is your business’s slogan or motto?

Jayden: I’m so bad at coming up with those pithy concepts. But in my novel Y is for Yes, I created a business that matches kinky people with other kinky people. I forget what I named it, now. You could read the book and tell me. 😉 But the idea was that famous people who happen to be kinky have a difficult time finding partners, so the business specialized in matchmaking them.

In reality, I would probably run a kinky B&B with Richard. That seems far more likely in real life.

Richard: Say Yass To The Ass. We sell? I dunno, anal sex toys? I just wanted to use that pun. Our motto is, “Your Booty Don’t Need Explaining.”

2. You have to write a 10-word message to the man/woman of your dreams, what would you say?

Jayden: Thank you for loving me. Let’s spend our lives together.

Richard: SNUGGLES SNUGGLES SNUGGLES SNUGGLES SNUGGLES SNUGGLES SNUGGLES SNUGGLES SNUGGLES SNUGGLES

3. What’s the word or string of words your partner can say to you that sends you over the edge the quickest?

Jayden: Any time Richard makes me feel like I’m just a dirty little slut put on Earth for his pleasure, I go nuts. There are several phrases he says that gets me into that mindset. He knows what they are. 😉

Richard: I like when someone begs me to cum so we can stop when we’re doing a con-noncon scene.

4. What is the nickname of your partner’s pussy or dick? Did you name it or was it already called that.

Jayden: Neither of us has nicknamed it, unless it counts when I yell, “Oh god!” when he fucks me. *grin*

Richard: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d4AFc65fl0I

5. What would you call yourself if you could choose your own name?

Jayden: Well, I chose this name. I don’t know if it’s one I would choose for my day-to-day life, though. I’ve never really thought about it.

Richard: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=co3ygE6H7PU

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TMI Tuesday: June 8th, 2021

Hello. TMI Tuesday anyone?

1. What do you have against reality?

Jayden: Sometimes reality is unfair and sad, and I hate that. That’s why all of my fiction is happily ever after.

Richard: It’s 2021, and I don’t have a flying car or live on Mars, or of that cool stuff.

2. Do you feel like you are maintaining a healthy balance between leisure, time for self, career, physical activity, and those you care about?

Jayden: Much better than I used to. I need to do more of the physical activity stuff.

Richard: Not at the moment. Moving and grad school are too time consuming.

3. What is a fantasy you have that you really want to come true?

Jayden: Gang bang. At least, when we’re talking about erotic fantasies. I’ve heard they’re not all they’re cracked up to be, but I feel like once might be fun.

Richard: (Jayden has “wanted” to do a gangbang for as long as I’ve known her, but she always gets really quiet when I mention setting one up.)

I’m sticking with owning a flying car here.

4. What is the most impulsive thing you have ever done?

Jayden: Uhh, I’m not a super impulsive person.

Richard: I volunteered to be in a dunk tank this weekend.

5. You are being given an all expense paid vacation, and you must leave for vacation tomorrow. Considering your current mood, state of mind, feelings–will you take the vacation alone, with a friend or with family? Why? (Choose one)

Jayden: I don’t like to do anything alone, particularly. I’m much more fond of going with a friend or family member. It’s fun to share the experience with someone else.

Richard: Do I have to go at all? I guess I’ll take Jayden, but I’d really rather just stay home. I have too much to do to get drug out on a vacation.

Bonus: How do you feel most of the time? Happy? Anxious? Satisfied? Sad?

Jayden: Happy. My best friend calls me the Sunshine.

Richard: Bored.

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TMI Tuesday: June 1st, 2021

Strange, Stranger

1. If you had to lick a stranger’s sweaty armpit everyday for the rest of your life to save the life of your significant other would you do it? (Thank you Master of None).

Jayden: I suggested to Richard that we have a suicide pact in the event that this became necessary. If it came down to it, I’m sure I would do it to save Richard’s life, but like…I just can’t imagine the scenario in which this is necessary.

Richard: Are they shaved at least?

2. What is something you escaped from?

Jayden: Unhappiness. When I read the question, my immediate reaction was, “my marriage” but that makes it sound like I had to run away. My ex and I are still friends, in fact. The reality was that I had to escape from the mental image of what my life should/could be and realize that I wasn’t happy with the way it was and that only I had the power to make changes. I made a lot of very big changes in a short amount of time. It was scary. Terrifying, even. But it’s been over three months since the last major change, and I am very, very happy.

Richard: Delaware. I don’t know what was going on, but Waffle House was closed, so we were lucky to make it out alive.

3. Have you ever done an Escape Room game with strangers? Did you solve it and get out on time?

Jayden: I have! I went with friends, but we partnered up with a couple for a room that required a crowd. We did get out in time and had a lot of fun doing it! 100% will go again.

Richard: No, I haven’t even done one with friends. I’ll make Jayden take me at some point.

4. What is the strangest/craziest DM you have received?

Jayden: Years ago, my (then) girlfriend and I received the exact same message on a dating app. So we responded with the exact same message. As the conversations continued, we sat side by side and sent the exact same messages no matter what he said. We giggled and giggled, and it took him about half an hour to figure it out. I love that story!

Richard: I don’t think I’ve ever had any good ones. I don’t think my boobs are big enough. 😦

5. Do you DM strangers? Why?

Jayden: I generally choose to spend my time these days doing other things, but I have DMed strangers and I’m not against it. I like talking to people. It’s so fun to get to learn about the way other people experience the world.

Richard: How else would I un-stranger them?

6. Do you watch “Stranger Things” on Netflix?

Jayden: I haven’t, though it’s on my list of things to maybe watch when I have time again.

Richard: I did. Season 1 was good, the rest is kind of meh.

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TMI Tuesday: May 25th, 2021

TMI Tuesday questions are life questions.

1. Do you typically wake up feeling optimistic?

Jayden: Usually. I am The Sunshine.

Richard: I try to never be optimistic.

2. Do you pursue your passions?

Jayden: Yes, that’s why I’m a writer.

Richard: I’m going for an MFA, so I guess so.

3. If your life was affected by covid19 lockdowns/restrictions how have you pursued your passions during the pandemic?

Jayden: I wrote. Not as much as I wanted to, but I definitely used the time to find myself in a new way and get a lot of inspiration for future novels.

Richard: So. Much. Bread.

4. Is there a conversation you need to have with someone but you have avoided? Tell us the basic subject and your relationship to the person.

Jayden: Uhh. I’m a pretty open person, so probably not. There are a few people I’d like to tell off about them talking behind my back about Richard and me, but it’s not worth the drama.

Richard: I should probably tell my parents that Jayden lives with me.

5. Fill in the blank. When my partner is around I feel _ .

Jayden: Comfortable.

Richard: Snuggly.

Bonus: Are you living in reality or a fabricated fantasy?

Jayden: Fantasy. I always think things are better than they are.

Richard: All reality is fantasy.

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TMI Tuesday: May 18th, 2021

You have nothing else better to do but play TMI Tuesday. Let’s get right to it.

1. Your first night out after covid19 lock-down and you catch a friend making a drunken pass at your significant other. Which of the following most mirrors your feelings or thoughts?

a. Ignore it, they are drunk off their ass.
b. Alcohol is a truth serum, true feelings come out and this false friend is after my honey.
c. Well, my babe is pretty hot so I can’t blame them for making a move.
d. After a year of lock-down, people are likely to flirt with a lamp-post. It is no big deal.
e. Hmmm, I wonder if this friend is up for a threesome?

Jayden: It depends on the person, but either c or e. My sweetheart is very sexy! But also, threesomes are a ton of fun.

Richard: Probably D. Maybe E if it was someone I was into.

2. True or False. I am so bored with vanilla sex?

Jayden: I don’t remember the last time I had purely vanilla sex. I would be terribly bored by it.

Richard: True! It’s been like a year, but still bored from then.

3. Is it unreasonable to hope for mind-blowing sex when you have been together for several years?

Jayden: We haven’t been together for years, but I expect our sex to still be mind-blowing decades from now. We both have a lot of kinks and are very invested in keeping our relationship exciting and fresh.

Richard: Totally reasonable. I’ve been in relationships where the sex started out just okay, but got better a few years in once we were more comfortable with each other.

4. Name two things that could doom your current romantic relationship?

Jayden: Oh jeeze. What are we in couple’s therapy? (Not knocking couple’s therapy! Just teasing.)

Not being honest with ourselves and not being on the same page with our future.

Richard: Asteroids and Vacations.

5. A local sex educator is holding orgasm classes–as in how to give an orgasm. Would you sign up to be a student or be the demonstration model?

Jayden: The thing is, I don’t think there’s a way to teach a “how to give an orgasm” class, unless it’s just “how to listen to your partner’s body and respond.” So I guess I’d be the model.

Richard: I think my track record for giving orgasms is pretty solid, so I’ll be a model.

Bonus: May 18 is World No Dirty Dishes Day. How will you celebrate?

Jayden: Oh boy! I do a good portion of the dishes, so that sounds divine! Unfortunately, Richard is making homemade soup, fresh bread, and homemade croutons today, so I suspect there will be plenty of dishes to wash. But that’s okay because…bread, soup, AND croutons! Yum!

Richard: There are so many dishes. I’m going to go help Jayden as soon as I post this.

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TMI Tuesday: May 11th, 2021

1. Agree or Disagree with “Rainy days and Mondays always get me down.”

Jayden: Mondays used to get me down, and then I got a better job. I actually like rainy days, as long as I don’t have to go anywhere. It’s a nice time to relax with a book and mug of tea.

Richard: Rainy days are the best. I don’t really think Mondays get me down, but they’re not my favorite either.

2. What do you like to do on a rainy day?

Jayden: Whoops, I already answered that. 😉 Oh, and snuggles!

Richard: Snuggles! And write, and drink warm drinks. And just listen to it.

3. What do you refuse to spend money on?

Jayden: Water. Tap water or water fountain water is fine. I’ll bring my own almost everywhere I go.

Richard: Fire starters. I can get perfectly good dryer lint from the basement.

4. If money and practicality were not a problem, what would be the most interesting way for you to get around town?

Jayden: I love public transportation. People watching is so fun. In my current city, we don’t have trains and the bus system is terrible. Maybe someday.

Richard: Jetpack.

5. What is the most frustrating product you own?

Jayden: My phone. It’s both the best and worst thing I own. When it works, it’s great. When it doesn’t work, it sucks.

Richard: My Blu-Ray player. I hate all the unskippable ads at the beginning (I miss watching DVDs on the computer) and it crashes just enough to annoy me, but not enough to replace.

Bonus: If you could hack into any one computer, which computer would you choose?

Jayden: I can’t even imagine. Is there one that knows what the winning lottery numbers are going to be? That would be fun.

Richard: One on a submarine, and then I’d make it play “Yellow Submarine” on repeat for days.

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A to Z Reflections

Welcome to our A to Z Reflections post!

Jayden:

I have to admit, having a co-blogger for A to Z made the whole thing MUCH easier. I did 14 posts to Richard’s 12 (plus I had some posts on the main A to Z blog), but it was definitely easier having someone to remind me to set up posts, write some of the posts, help edit the posts, etc. In general, doing the blog together is a wonderful thing. (Plus it’s great for our relationship!)

I didn’t get to go read quite as many blogs as I would like, though I did find a few new ones to follow already, so I’m very much looking forward to the Road Trip which starts tomorrow!

Richard:

Doing A to Z was a fun way to get myself writing more. I think my favorite part was figuring out how to take my posts ideas and link them back to the themes. My favorite post was S is for Silent, even though getting all those emojis in there was a pain in the butt.

The Bet:

The results are in and the winner of the bet is…

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TMI Tuesday: May 5th, 2021

Let your imagination run wild to fill-in the blanks this TMI Tuesday.

Fill in the blank.

1. Friends = _____

2. I’m done with _____.

3. I’m ready for _____.

4. The oldest _____ I have is _____.

5. Take some _____, mix it all together and you have _____.

Bonus: Tonight I am looking forward to _____, and tomorrow I really want to _____ !

Jayden:

  1. Friends = love We don’t say I love you enough to our friends. (Most people don’t. I do.)
  2. I’m done with drama! No more. No thanks.
  3. I’m ready for Summer!
  4. The oldest friend I have is K. She’s been my best friend since 4th grade and I adore her.
  5. Take some yummy ingredients, mix it all together and you have delicious food, at least you do when Richard does it. If I mix ingredients you end up with…well… nothing delicious.
  6. Bonus: Tonight I am looking forward to snuggles, and tomorrow I really want to spend time with my partner!

Richard:

  1. Friends = Better than family
  2. I’m done with Covid! I’m tired of it, and I got my shots, so I think it should be over.
  3. I’m ready for grad school!
  4. The oldest pen I own is 12 years old. I gotta pump those number up.
  5. Take some penny, mix it all together and you have good luck. That’s how the song goes, right?
  6. Bonus: Tonight, I am looking forward to sleep, and tomorrow I really want to sleep in.

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TMI Tuesday: April 26th, 2021

1. Are you ready to go? Where are you going?

Jayden: I am so ready to go! I’ll go anywhere but here! Okay, that’s not totally true, but I am very ready to go on a couple of trips coming up in the next few months. Very, very excited. Two are to the beach, which is amusing because I’m not a super beachy person, and the other one is to the mountains, and I’m not a super woodsy person either. But in any case, I’m very excited.

Richard: I’m ready to go to grad school! Even though I’m not going anywhere, since it’s virtual for the first chunk.

2. There is something wrong with dating, what is it?

Jayden: There are lots of things wrong with dating. So many people misrepresent who they are in ways that are detrimental to the relationship. It’s exhausting to try to figure out who is being honest about who they are.

Richard: I dunno, I feel like I’m the only person in the universe that likes dating. You go out, if you have a good time, it’s good. If you have a bad time, you start saying absurd things to see if they notice.

3. Born to be wild–what is your wild?

Jayden: I’m wild in the bedroom. I have very few limits, so you name it, I’ve probably tried it.

Richard: My hair is pretty wild right now. My barber retired, and I can’t find a new one that I like.

4. Pick your best feature and sell it to us?

Jayden: My best feature is my smile. One of my best friends calls me the Sunshine because I light up the room. My positivity is my strongest personality feature, and my smile goes along with it.

Richard: Jayden would probably say my shoulder freckles. See mom, all those sun burns worked out!

5. Fill in the blank. This may sound a little weird but _____ .

Jayden: I’m a little tipsy right now after drinking three sips of a margarita. Also, it took me three tries to spell ‘margarita’.

Richard: Sometimes I wonder if Liam Neeson would be as much better of a president than Ronald Reagan as he was an actor.

Bonus: If you were trapped in a store all night, in which store would you want to be trapped?

Jayden: Bed, Bath, and Beyond. Plenty of comfy beds and dozens of crazy cool gadgets to try out!

Richard: One of those giant Nintendo stores, like the one in New York. I’m not going to sleep well anyway, might as well be somewhere with lots of stuff to do. And it’s a good story!

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TMI Tuesday: April 20th, 2021

Money Honey

  1. Has money ever ruined a relationship for you?

Jayden: I don’t think so.

Richard: Nope

2. Have you ever successfully negotiated a pay raise?

Jayden: I got lucky and didn’t have to, since they offered me above my negotiation target.

Richard: No, I’ve tried a few times, but never really had that kind of job.

3. What piece of MONEY advice would you tell your younger self?

Jayden: You don’t need all that stuff.

Richard: Don’t live with someone that can’t cover their share of the rent.

4. Have you ever paid for sex or been paid for sex?

Jayden: Not in cold hard cash.

Richard: One time I paid a girl in make outs for gossip.

5. Are you hiding a financial secret?

Jayden: No.

Richard: No. I don’t have anyone to hide stuff from.

Bonus: Have you made someone smile today? If not, please take up the challenge and make someone smile.

Jayden: I just made people smile telling a story.

Richard: I fixed someone’s Zoom!

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TMI Tuesday: April 13th, 2021

1. What is an ideal weekend for you?

Jayden: This is an interesting question. My ideals have changed a lot in the past few months. But, a perfect weekend for me involves some times with friends, good food, and lots of laughs.

Richard: I think that depends on my mood. Some weekends, it’s fun to barely get out of bed. Others it’s fun to wake up somewhere I’ve never been. I think I should get to bake regardless though.

2. What is the craziest job you would consider taking?

Jayden: I’m not super exciting when it comes to this kind of question. I think quitting my day job to be a full-time writer would be super crazy!

Richard: Professional mascot. What could be crazier than being Gritty?

3. Where would you rate yourself as a kisser on a scale of 1 to 10? (10 being the best kisser ever!)

Jayden: Uh, this is a difficult question. I don’t think super highly of myself, typically. So I’d say like a 4. Richard can feel free to disagree.

Richard: Jayden is at least an eight out of ten. Minimal slobber, and good use of tongue. I’m going to say seven out of ten for me.

4. What do you like most and least about your significant other’s cooking?

Jayden: Well, this is awkward. 😉 Richard is my significant other! The thing I like most is also the thing I like least, haha. He makes me try new things (yay) like vegetables (blah). But seriously, I love Richard’s cooking. He makes a lot of different things I’m not used to eating and many of them are a lot healthier than what I would make myself.

Wait! I know something I dislike! He makes a lot of dishes and we don’t have a dishwasher. 😉

Richard: Least favorite, it doesn’t happen very often. Most favorite, it’s very different from mine, so it’s fun to try new recipes.

5. How has smartphone photography changed your world?

Jayden: I take pictures a lot. It’s fun to watch my daughter grow up in photos that wouldn’t have existed if it weren’t for smartphone photography.

Richard: As a person with atrocious handwriting, it’s nice to be able to take pictures of stuff like my license plate and not go, “Is that a Q or a 9?”

Bonus: What is a good life?

Jayden: Oh boy. This is another tough question. A good life is one filled with happiness, love, companionship, and friendship. One where you leave the world a little bit better than it would be without you.

Richard: One where you don’t have to worry about too much day to day stuff (food, housing, etc.) and can make the world a better place.

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The Insecure Writer’s Support Group #IWSG

The Insecure Writer's Support Group

Well hello there, dear readers. Richard and I have found yet another blog challenge that we’ve decided to jump into because:

  1. Why not?
  2. We’re insecure writers!
  3. We’re not alone!

The prompt goes up the first Wednesday of the month, but since we were in the middle of A to Z, we didn’t get our post together until today (which is fine, because we want to keep our posting-streak alive by posting on Sunday anyway). If you’d like to chime in and let us know your answers to the questions or drop a link to your post if you’re participating, please do so in the comments! And check out the IWSG website for more answers!

April 7 – Are you a risk-taker when writing? Do you try something radically different in style/POV/etc. or add controversial topics to your work?

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