#Bloganuary 12

Hello readers! We’re here with the answer to the latest question in our Bloganuary series!

What chore do you find the most challenging to do?

Jayden: Pack Richard’s lunch. I eat the same thing for lunch every day and even so, I have a list of what goes in my lunch posted on the refrigerator. Richard doesn’t like to eat the same thing every day (totally fair), so I have to really think about what I’m putting in it, and sometimes I forget stuff. Thankfully, we planned for that, and he keeps extra snacks at work. 🙂

#Bloganuary 11

Hello readers! We’re here with the answer to the latest question in our Bloganuary series!

How do you define success?

Jayden: Success is such a broad word.

Success as an author: being able to do it full time.

Success as a blogger: having enough followers. (What’s enough?)

Success as a mother: having a independent children who can take care of themselves.

Success as a partner: helping bring balance and happiness to my partner’s life.

Those are just a few. Tell us in the comments how you define success.

#Bloganuary 10

Hello readers! We’re here with the answer to the latest question in our Bloganuary series!

Has a book changed your life?

Jayden: Sure. 100%. Whether it was my first mystery novel (Stillwatch by Mary Higgins Clark) taken out of my grandmother’s closet after her passing, or the Midnight Circus by Erin Morgenstern which I finished and literally started reading over again, there have been countless books that have changed my life.

Richard: Animorphs. Duh. I feel like (for millenials) this question has to be have an “other than Animorphs” at the end, to avoid everyone giving the same answer.

I don’t actually have a good answer other than Animorphs. I think I used all the brain power I had on this question to be flippant.

#Bloganuary 9

Hello readers! We’re here with the answer to the latest question in our Bloganuary series!

What is the most memorable gift you have received?

Jayden: Honestly, it’s hard for me to come up with stuff. When I think of gifts, I think of the gifts I give others and forget the ones I got. I think the most memorable one right now is the set of pearls Richard got me for my birthday two years ago. It was particularly memorable because he remembered me telling him that I didn’t have my own pearls and tried to steal my mom’s, so he bought me my own set. It’s not just that it was pretty jewelry (though it is), but that he remembered a conversation we had and acted on it.

#Bloganuary 8

Hello readers! We’re here with the answer to the latest question in our Bloganuary series!

How far back in your family tree can you go?

Jayden: I can trace my family tree all the way back to the Mayflower. It’s pretty cool to see it go all the way back that far. (It probably also means that some of my ancestors were awful people, but thankfully we’ve learned a thing or two over the generations.)

#Bloganuary 7

Hello readers! We’re here with the answer to the latest question in our Bloganuary series!

Write a short story or poem about rain.

Jayden:

The rain wouldn’t stop pouring outside. It had been days and days and days. All anyone wanted was a break from the rain. But mother nature didn’t comply. “Master?” I said, kneeling at my Dom’s feet.

“Yes, pet?”

“I want to be able to go outside again.”

“I know, pet,” he said, and he scritched me behind the ear.

My favorite thing to do was for Master to take me outside on my leash, sometimes making me pee outside. I loved the feeling of the cool grass on my legs and hands, tickling me as I crawled around. I loved feeling the cool breeze across my naked body. But when it rained, cool became cold and exhilarating became uncomfortable.

“Maybe I’ll make you go outside anyway, pet.”

I whimpered, but even as I protested, my pussy dripped with arousal at the thought of being forced by my Master.

#Bloganuary 6

Hello readers! We’re here with the answer to the latest question in our Bloganuary series!

Why do you write?

Jayden: It’s a good creative outlet.

Richard: *Looks up from pile of manuscripts, critique letters, and seminar readings* TO FINISH THIS DAMN MFA!

#Bloganuary 5

Hello readers! We’re here with the answer to the second question in our Bloganuary series!

What brings you joy in life?

Jayden: Doing things for others. I like being able to help other people. It’s almost a curse. All I want is a thank you, and I’m happy to do almost anything. (That might be why I lean so heavily submissive…)

Richard: Cooking for others.

#Bloganuary 4

Hello readers! We’re here with the answer to the second question in our Bloganuary series!

What is a treasure that’s been lost?

Jayden: My mom lost my grandmother’s diamond engagement ring. She inherited it when my grandmother passed away. She was devastated. I assured her that it wasn’t a big deal (it wasn’t valuable, just sentimental) and that we had our pictures and memories that were more important. That was almost a decade ago and it chokes me up when I think about it, but I won’t tell my mom because it will just upset her.

Richard: The ability to take Swiss Army Knives on a plane.

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January 4 question – Do you have a word of the year? Is there one word that sums up what you need to work on or change in the coming year?

Jayden: My word for 2023 is consistency. I need to be more consistent in many facets of my life. Work is the one place I’m probably the most consistent because I’ve developed my routines. But I need to be more consistent at home with completing the chores that pile up (Richard helps me to be good at staying on top of the daily chores). I need to be more consistent with getting my school work done on time. I need to be more consistent with advertising for my side job. And the big one is that I need to be more consistent with my blog. On that note, did you see our big announcement on December 31st? I really hope that I can stay consistent this time, so be sure to read my posts, like, and comment, so I know you’re out there reading!

Richard: Graduate! Once I’m done with grad school, it’ll open up a ton of time and energy for other things. I have a ton of writing projects that are kinda sorta ready to move onto the next step, but keep getting shoved out of the way for schoolwork instead.

What is your word of 2023?

#Bloganuary 3

Hello readers! We’re here with the answer to the second question in our Bloganuary series!

What is the earliest memory you have?

Jayden: I have a very vague memory of my mom’s best friend’s house that she sold when I was 3 or 4. Other than that, I remember watching TV with my parents and playing school in Kindergarten. Nothing particularly crazy.

Richard: My mom yelling at me for brushing my teeth wrong. Like, I spit and it got on her toothbrush or something. I was 2? 3?

#Bloganuary 2

Hello readers! Jayden here with the answer to the second question in our Bloganuary series!

How are you brave?

Jayden: I have an intense dislike of change. My therapist and I have spoken about it at length. And yet, I took a huge step ~2 years ago and ended my 12+ year marriage. It was a super difficult thing to do, but it was the right thing to do for myself. It took a lot of bravery to take that step, but I am much happier now, and I’m glad I did it.

#Bloganuary 1

Hello readers! We’re here today to bring you the first in a returning series: Bloganuary! Honestly, we totally forgot about this until the email popped up from them today. Whoops! So, surprise, you get a little tidbit from (at least) one of us every day in January to kick off the year! But don’t worry, our other plans haven’t changed at all.

Bloganuary is a challenge to blog every day in January with a prompt from WordPress. The prompts don’t come out until almost the day of, so we have to write every day for it to work.

So here is the first installment. Day 1:

What is something you want to achieve this year?

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December 7 question – It’s holiday time! Are the holidays a time to catch up or fall behind on writer goals?

Jayden: I think it’s bad. I get out of my routine so much that I fall behind on everything. Even though I have more time off of my day job, it’s hard for me to keep a writing routine when I’m not working. It’s weird, honestly, that when I have more free time, I get less done. I guess it’s just a mindset.

Richard: Probably about neutral? There’s a bit more free time to write, but I’m also usually recovering from Nano. I usually hit January pretty hard though.

Do you find that that you catch up or fall behind during the holidays?

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November 2nd – November is National Novel Writing Month. Have you ever participated? If not, why not?

Jayden: Yes! I’ve been participating since 2007 or so. I’ve made it to 50k or more every November (but rarely in the Camp months). I’ve even managed to write 50k in 24 hours three times. Never again, haha. It’s a lot. But I was proud of that accomplishment. With how busy I am now, I’m only planning to aim for ~50k this year for NaNo. I’m sure I’ll feel like I need to get more, but we’ll see what happens.

Richard: My first NaNo was also around 2007 or 2008. I’ve won the last 3 or 4 years. NaNo is actually how Jayden and I met. (Jayden: THANK GOODNESS FOR NANO! <3)

Are you participating in NaNo?

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October 5th – What do you consider the best characteristics of your favorite genre?

Jayden: My favorite genre is romance. I love that there’s always a Happily Ever After. Real life is often serious and sad, so when I invest time in reading, I like that it can have a nice, neat conclusion. What’s your favorite romance novel or who is your favorite romance author?

Richard: Not a genre per se, but I’m going to go with serial fiction in all its forms. I like the way the spread out pacing gives a story room to breathe and for people to speculate and interact in “real time” with it as it develops.

What do you love about your favorite genre?

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September 7th – What genre would be the worst one for you to tackle and why?

Jayden: Historical fiction. I don’t have a great grasp on history, so I’d have to do *a lot* of research, which I don’t particularly care for. I love to read it, but writing it would be awful.

Richard: Does Fanfic count? I’ve tried it a couple times, and I just can’t wrap my head around writing other people’s characters.

What would be your hardest genre to tackle?

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August 3rd question – When you set out to write a story, do you try to be more original or do you try to give readers what they want?

Jayden: I write for myself. I tried writing to get published, but especially in the world of kinky smut, they often want very specific things. As a bisexual switch, sometimes I want a variety of things in one story. It depends on my mood. So when I write and self-publish, I can write whatever combinations I want. It’s very freeing. I just keep reminding myself of the best writing advice I’ve ever been given: write what you want to read.

Richard: For most genre writing, I think you should be trying to do both. If you’re writing a fantasy story, people want to see some dragon slaying or whatever. But you should be trying to do your dragon slaying in an original way. Have your peasants give the dragon more and more tributes until it’s suffocated/crushed under it’s horde!

Original or Give ’em What They Want?

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July 6 question – If you could live in any book world, which one would you choose?

Jayden: That’s hard because a lot of the books I read are dystopian, and that doesn’t sound so great! Harry Potter is a very cool world to live in, once You Know Who is gone, anyway. I guess I’ll stick with that one.
Richard: One of those safety instruction books, where people drop blenders into tubs and stuff. It just seems like a very strange place, I’d like to find out more about it.

What book world would you want to live in?

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The Insecure Writer's Support Group

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June 1 question – When the going gets tough writing the story, how do you keep yourself writing to the end? If you have not started writing yet, why do you think that is and what do you think could help you find your groove and start?

Jayden: I know that if I don’t finish a project in one go, I won’t ever finish it. It’s too hard for me to come back to it after a lot of time away. That’s why NaNo is so great for me–I can write the whole novel in one shot. (Not one day, generally, but one month at least.) When I switch between projects, I tend to get distracted and lose track of details, even when I outline what I’m writing as I write it. So that motivation of knowing I might not ever finish the project is a big part of getting to the end.

On the other hand, I’ve been kicking around this erotic novel set in a world with societies of Dommes (and dinosaurs!) but I haven’t, and Richard and I even did the whole worldbuilding outline! I don’t know what’s stopping me there, but I am hopeful that I can get to in July for CampNaNo. Having other people to support me definitely helps a lot!

Richard: My favorite trick is to switch how I’m telling the story. A lot of my writing has mini-epistolary sections, so those are a great opportunity to think about it from a different angle and get unstuck. Swapping to a different part or character can work too, but I find the little snippets I get from writing travel guides, new casts, etc. are more useful.

How do you motivate yourself?