31 Questions: Day 23

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March 23 – What’s your recipe for recuperating from extreme heartbreak?

Jayden: Time, mostly. But in the interim: baked goods (cake, cookies, etc.), ice cream, mac & cheese,… so–carbs.

Richard: Usually I pick a video game, book series, etc. that I’ve been putting off since I know it’ll be a total time sink, and dive into it.

31 Questions: Day 22

Marquessa Matthews challenged herself and other bloggers to answer 31 questions during the month of March. You should check out hers and comment below with a link if you’re playing along!


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March 22 – What’s your personal anthem or theme song?

Jayden: It changes at least 2-3 times a year, but currently: If Our Love Is Wrong by Calum Scott.

Richard: I’m going to go with the Space Jam theme. Especially when you mash it up with something else. This one just popped up in my Youtube recommends. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9Vyrlj_WmkA Bonus points for having Megalovania in there, which is one of my favorite writing jams.

31 Questions: Day 21

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March 21 – What’s something you’ve tried, that you’ll never, ever try again?

Jayden: Oh there have to be things… kinky things even.

Richard: Scalloped potatoes. What a waste of good spuds.

Jayden: Okay so, Richard called me out that this was a cop out of an answer. So… I guess I’ll add onto it. I like to try new things, especially kinky things. I’m trying to remember one that I disliked enough to never, ever do again. There are plenty of things that I don’t love but will do for the right Dom. There are a few things I won’t even try (hello, hard limits!) but it’s pretty rare that I’ll try something and dislike it *that* strongly. So, I guess I have to get away from kink…

I have a food I’ll never try again. Anything rice paper wrapped. It literally makes me gag.

Also, scalloped potatoes are delicious, and apparently I have to cook them for Richard so he can see that. (I legitimately think he’d like them if they were made well.)

31 Questions: Day 20

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March 20 – What’s one mistake you keep repeating (and repeating)?

Jayden: Arguing with a friend. Trying to get them to see things the way they are instead of the way they perceive them to be. It’s like beating my head against a brick wall.

Richard: Eating too late before going to bed. I always feel like garbage.

Jayden: I guess we’ll just have to get you some more pre-sleep exercise, Richard. 😉 It would probably be in bed though.

31 Questions: Day 19

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March 19 – What’s in your fridge, right this moment?

Jayden: A lot of things. But one that’s coming to mind is bread pudding! I love bread pudding.

Richard: For the record, that bread pudding isn’t there anymore. We’re filling these out ahead of time. There’s probably milk in there, we’re pretty good about keeping that. Also, eggs. I accidentally bought like 3 dozen, and we don’t go through them that quickly.

31 Questions: Day 18

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March 18 – What do you value most: free time, recognition, or money?

Jayden: Free time. I’ve had a lot of times in my life where I was on the go around the clock. It’s very nice to feel productive, but I also value time to relax and do the things I want to do instead of the things I have to do.

Richard: Free time. There was a brief period where I was working 60+ hour weeks. I literally did not have time to spend the money I was making with overtime, and I was miserable. Free time is the hardest to come by, but you can use it to get recognition or money if you want it.

31 Questions: Day 17

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March 17 – What are you an expert on? Is it because of training, lived experience, or both?

Jayden: Spreadsheets! Okay, maybe not. I’m really good at them. But I do think I’m an expert at my day job, which I don’t really talk about on here.

Richard: Sourdough! Hint: Use the discard for pancakes with jelly or honey.

Jayden: I can totally vouch for Richard’s Sourdough. Oh my goodness, it’s amazing. I didn’t even particularly like sourdough before I met Richard, and now I lament any time we don’t have it in the house!

31 Questions: Day 16

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March 16 – If you could sit down with your 15-year old self, what would you tell him or her?

Jayden: That it’s going to work out okay. No matter what, hang in there, because it will all work out okay.

Richard: That our life is going to be really weird, but mostly in ways that he’ll think is awesome. If possible, I’d have a slideshow of strange things we did, said, etc. with minimal context.

31 Questions: Day 15

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March 15 – If you could choose your own life obstacles, would you keep the ones you have?

Jayden: : I don’t know. I’m not sure that’s a choice I would want to make. As a submissive, I often dislike making choices, and choosing my own life obstacles seems like a difficult path.

Richard: No, I’m sure I could min-max some optimal obstacles that were minimally inconvenient, if not advantageous somehow.

31 Questions: Day 14

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March 14 – How do you reign in self critical voices?

Jayden:  My own self-critical voices are very difficult to reign in. Having a partner to remind me of my own self-worth is very valuable. I hate to put that on them, but sometimes I forget that I can be good at things.

Richard: 90% of the time, it doesn’t matter if I suck as bad as I think I do anyway.

31 Questions: Day 13

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March 13 – How do you engage with panhandlers on the street?

Jayden:   I’m very uncomfortable, in general. I’m a petite woman, so safety is something that’s been ingrained in me, and I did live in a big city for a long time. That said, I have a lot of compassion for people who are down on their luck. One of my most memorable experiences was working with a soup kitchen and helping the homeless.

Richard: I used to usually give to them, but I don’t carry cash/change as often anymore. It makes me feel bad.

31 Questions: Day 12

Marquessa Matthews challenged herself and other bloggers to answer 31 questions during the month of March. You should check out hers and comment below with a link if you’re playing along!


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March 12 – Have you ever unplugged from the Internet for more than a week?

Jayden:   Yes, and I’d love to do it again soon. That’s probably because the only time I’ve done that was when I was on a cruise, and going on a cruise sounds glorious.

Richard:  I haven’t. The closest I’ve ever come was when I worked at a summer camp, but even then it was Sunday afternoon to Saturday morning. At this point, I don’t think I could do it with work, we were 90% or more online even pre-Covid. And how would I get you all smut without the internet? I guess I could write everything offline, then make Jayden post it.

31 Questions: Day 11

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March 11 – Have you ever stolen anything? (Money, candy, hearts, time?)

Jayden:  I have. One time, my friends were shoplifting cheap little things at the mall and I dropped one in a bag. I felt horrible about it! It was probably a $2 item at a crappy mall store, but I still felt bad. I also one time stole a reusable bag from a grocery store. I forget why but I was in a super hurry and the bag I grabbed had no tag on it. I ended up just walking out with it, and then I went back another time and paid for it. No one ever would have noticed, but it bothered me.

Richard: I accidentally stole a bottle of milk from the student union when I was in college. My hands were full and I slid it in my jacket pocket. I planned to take it out when I got to the register, but I got distracted and forgot. I didn’t realize until I was in class, and I never went back.

31 Questions: Day 10

Marquessa Matthews challenged herself and other bloggers to answer 31 questions during the month of March. You should check out hers and comment below with a link if you’re playing along!


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March 10 – Have you ever been genuinely afraid for your physical safety?

Jayden: Yes. And I have often thought of it as the beginning of a great rape story, though this wouldn’t have been consensual non-consent, so the fear was VERY real! I was going to give you a bonus story today, but I decided to save it for April’s A to Z Challenge!

Richard: A few years ago, I slipped in the shower. All I could think about while I was falling (which felt like it took like two minutes) was a girl I went to college with who broke her neck the same way. Luckily, I landed on my badonkadonk, and it absorbed most of the blow with minimal issues.

31 Questions: Day 9

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March 9 – Has a teacher ever changed your life? How so?

Jayden: Absolutely. My first grade teacher (who I thought hated me) recommended me for gifted. Later, I went back and worked with her class to read to the younger students and she was so nice to me. I don’t know if it was my perception or her attitude that changed, but it made a huge difference in my understanding of teachers, even at that young age.

Richard: Let me tell you about Frank Peters. Frank Peters was older than the university he taught at, and possibly the universe itself. Like most professors, he had some student advisees.

One day, one of his advisees came to his office. He was a senior, who only needed one class to graduate (because my university was terrible, and people frequently had to take an extra semester for one class.)

“What should I take, Doctor Peters?” asked the student.

And Frank Peters, whose wisdom was infinite, said, “You should take six gyms.”

This caused the young man to freak out a little, which was not unusual when Frank gave advice.

“But Doctor Peters,” he said, “What will companies say when I apply for jobs and they look at my transcripts?”

“No one looks at those anyway!” said Frank Peters. “They don’t care what courses you took, or what your GPO is,” GPO was not an abbreviation the college had used for at least a millenia. “And if they do, they’ll just think you’ll be cool to have around at the company picnic.

The student wound up taking three gyms. He got a job somewhere down south as a professional frisbee player at company picnics.

31 Questions: Day 8

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March 8 – Do you think you’re currently operating at 100% capacity?

Jayden: Is anyone? But I’ve been making improvements to my sleep schedule so that hopefully I can operate at better capacity.

Richard:

31 Questions: Day 7

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March 7 – What was your very first job?

Jayden: I worked at a chicken wing restaurant. It was a fun first job, and I still adore wings!

Richard: I was a camp counselor. It’s still one of the best jobs I’ve ever had, and had a big effect on my path through life since then.

31 Questions: Day 5

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March 5 – What’s the worst piece of advice you’ve ever been given?

Jayden: That there’s only one way to do something. There are lots of ways to do most things, and we should all embrace our differences whether it be in learning style or relationships or whatever.

Richard: One time, when I was depressed, someone got me a self help book that could basically be summarized as, “Nothing you think matters, God will just make you do whatever you’re supposed to do.” This is poor advice in general, and was especially bad in that mental state.

31 Questions: Day 4

Marquessa Matthews challenged herself and other bloggers to answer 31 questions during the month of March. You should check out hers and comment below if you’re playing along!


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March 4 – Are you living your life purpose — or still searching?

Jayden: I think I’ve made great strides toward finding my life purpose and living it. Many of those strides have been verrrrrry recent, too.

Richard: Definitely still searching. I don’t know what I want to be doing two years from now, let alone for the rest of my life!