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TMI Tuesday

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1. To spice things up in the bedroom, how adventurous are you willing to be? (select one)
a. I have never role-played before and will need a lot of instruction.
b. I have tested the waters, but never acted out anything scripted.
c. I have got my feet wet and want more!
d. Dive in head first – nothing is too deep.

2. What scenario peaks your interest most? Why?
a. Romantic and sensual
b. Playful and fun
c. Kinky! I want it all.

3. Which of these is closest to your ideal setting for a fantasy?
a. A brothel
b. A dungeon
c. A bedroom
d. A prison cell

4. Which of the following toys would be prominently featured in your fantasy? (select one)
a. Feathers and whipped cream
b. Handcuffs, panty hose, and a necktie
c. Whips and chains
d. Ice cubes and a cold beer

5. It is time to take your sexy self to fantasy island, which fantasy will you bring to life to rock your lover’s world?

a. The Sassy Sexy Jersey Whore
Gaudy, Flashy, Showy…totally Jersey!

b. Kinky Cook
It’s all about the spice! Heating things up in the kitchen.

c. Naughty Maid
Your feather duster will tickle more than just the dust on the shelves.

d. Doctor Love
Saving lives and breaking hearts but not before you administer a head-to-toe physical examination.

e. Frisky Fireman
A hose so long you can put out several of the hottest fires and leave a smoldering heap as proof of a job well done.

Bonus: Tell us about your craziest or wildest role-playing adventure.

I don’t know that I have a particular role-playing adventure because we end up being ourselves when we play. But, there was one particular challenge we did on Fetlife years ago (10 years?) where someone posted challenges in a group and you got points for posting pictures doing all sorts of things. It opened up a whole host of kinks to me that I did for the challenge and found out I liked. There was a section of acting as a dog (eating off the floor, crawling). That might be the closest I’ve come personally. In fantasy, well… read any of my novels to hear about those. 😉

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Time and Love

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Lately, I have been obsessed with the song If We Were Vampires by Jason Isbell covered by Chester See. This might be the saddest song I have ever heard. And those of you who know me, know that I don’t do SAD. Real life is serious and sad. So when I consume media (movies, books, television, music) I want it to be happy. I think I’ve only ever written one novel with a sad ending and it was a choose your own adventure ending. (Seriously, if you choose not to save the lost puppy, you deserve a sad ending.)

So the fact that this song has been on repeat for me for weeks is remarkable. So what makes it so poignant? Mortality has been on my mind a lot. With the sudden death of a family member almost a year ago, I have definitely focused a lot more on valuing the time I have, and spending it on what really matters. Friends. Family. Relationships. Experiences.

Those dishes can wait another day. That expensive piece of furniture can wait in favor of a trip with my husband.

This has dovetailed nicely with the TV show The Good Place which wrapped up recently. Without spoiling it, I will say that it forces the viewer to take a long hard look at their lives in a similar way to If We Were Vampires. If you haven’t watched it, I highly recommend it, and the podcast: The Good Place The Podcast. And as Marc Evan Jackson ends his podcasts, comment below with something good in the world. And then, go do something good.

TMI Tuesday

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1. In the bedroom, what makes you insecure?

Being with someone new. Someone who doesn’t know me, who doesn’t yet understand what I like and what I don’t like and vice versa.

2. In the bedroom, what makes you a champion?

When I see that look in someone’s eye that I know I’ve hit the right spot, done the right thing.

3. When it comes to sexy time, I earn a gold medal _____ .

Uh… I’m not a super confident person, so that makes this hard. Creativity? I do write lots of fun sex things.

4. At the sexolympics, in which sport will you compete?
a. Artistic, synchronized water sex in the pool
b. Freestyle naked wrestling
c. Artistic naked gymnastics

5. Your significant other’s ex is coming to town and he/she wants to go out to dinner with them alone. How do you react?
a. It’s okay, no problem.
b. Not thrilled, but go ahead.
c. Not just no… HELL no!

Bonus: What kind of fidelity (being faithful) is more important to you?
a. Physical/Sexual.
b. Mental/Emotional.
c. Neither is important.
d. Both are equally important

That said, I’m poly. So, I’m not inherently that jealous. It also depends a lot on circumstances. #5 has happened before, but they have kids together, so…

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TMI Tuesday

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1. If you had to wear a t-shirt with just one word on it for an entire year, what would it say?

Mom. Being a mom often consumes my life. Plus, it would explain away bad hair days and sweat pants.

2. What movie did your parents let you watch as a kid that they definitely should not have?

Jerry Maguire. It came out when I was 10. We watched it at home, so it was on VHS, but I was probably 11 or 12.

3. What are your hopes for this day?

That I will write lots of words! Tuesday is my writing day!

4. What is holding you back from going after what you want?

Society. I wish that I could be more honest about what I write and my relationships, but with my job, I can’t. 😦

5. If you could make a rule for a day and everyone had to follow it, what would it be?

Be kind.

Bonus: What is one thing you refuse to share? Why?

My toothbrush. Yuck!

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Sensuality

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I struggle to come out of my hazy sleep in the middle of the night, feeling something. My brain struggles to process what’s happening. And then it’s like all my senses ignite. There is a thumb rubbing across my nipple. It’s not insistent or rough. It’s just steady. Up and down, across the little nub that has formed. As I revel in the feeling of that thumb across my flesh, my entire body suddenly feels like it’s on fire. My pussy contracts with need. I am spooned against my partner, and his cock is hard against my ass. I’m not fully awake, but I want him inside me, and I am not sure I can handle another second without it.

I grind my ass back against him and now he knows I’m awake. “Please,” I groan, and he knows. He knows me so well, every hum of my body.

“I’m sorry,” he says, “I didn’t mean to wake you.”

I don’t care. I don’t care at all. My hips are grinding more firmly against him, trying to change angles and get him inside me. His thumb keeps its slow movements, and I know I am going to lose my mind any second now.

I pull my body away from his and push him roughly on his back. He just smiles up at me as I climb on top of him, directing his cock into my pussy. I am dripping wet with need for him. When I first get him inside me, I am frozen with the feeling of fullness. This is exactly what I needed.

And then he grips my hips and we start to move, up and down, up and down, my pussy clenching around his cock. When he fills me with cum, I collapse on top of him and he caresses my back gently. It’s so soft and sensual, and the fire is still burning inside me.

His cock slips out of me, and I groan with the loss. He gently rolls me off of him and pulls me back into the spooning position we were in when I awoke. But this time, his thumb gently rubs against my clit, and I come undone in his arms.

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Writing Update! #1000000Words

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In January, I wrote a total of 91,816 fiction words plus 1284 blog words. My goal is to write 1,000,000 words in 2020, but if they can all be fiction words, that would be great.

Highest word count day in January: 13,194
Average words per day: 2962

I am currently ahead of the game! I don’t think it will last, so I’ll be excited about it while I can. I have built a new world I’ll be debuting in April with the A to Z Blog Challenge and I am firmly in Book 2. Very exciting stuff!

If you’re interested in more stats and pretty graphs, here you go!

2-2-20 Tracking

Look at that little February blip there from yesterday! Woo!

TMI Tuesday

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Welcome to another TMI Tuesday blog.

1. In a D/s relationship (dominance and submission) , what do you enjoy most?

I am a switch, so this is a very difficult question. I really like it all. I’m bi, poly, and a switch. But I can say that when things get tough and I crave something, it’s being submissive. Nothing centers me like serving someone else.

2. What do you want people to know most about D/s relationships?

I want people to know that no two D/s relationships look the same and THAT’S OKAY! As long as everyone involved are consenting adults, you can make your relationship look however you want to. Don’t get bogged down in what it “should” be, or what someone else is doing. Do what feels right to you and your partner(s).

3. For you, does D/s need to have a sadist and masochist component?

Maybe a little. But I love to write about Doms who are more caring than harsh. Impact play is fun, for sure. I’m not sure I could do without it in my primary relationship at this point. But it doesn’t exist in all of my other relationships.

4. For you, does BDSM have to involve sex?

It is sexual for me, but it doesn’t have to be for everyone. Many of the BDSM things I enjoy are very sexual/sensual.

5. If you are in a D/s relationship, why do you need it?

I need to feel grounded. I keep coming back to this idea that it centers me to serve someone else, but it really does. It’s an important part of who I am.

6. If you are not in a D/s relationship, would you like to be? Why?

So, obviously, I am. But I miss having a sub of my own. Even just a sub to play with occasionally. Having a Dom is wonderful. I couldn’t live without it. But it’s been a while since I’ve had a sub, and I would love to have one again. Someone who can serve and respect us both. Maybe someday soon.

Bonus:   What is the relationship between trust and vulnerability?

I can’t be vulnerable without trust. I trust easily. Too easily sometimes. And sometimes I’m too vulnerable because of it. But usually, the vulnerability comes after the trust has been earned for my husband, too, and that takes longer. He’s a really good judge of people.

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TMI Tuesday

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Make TMI Tuesday a part of your life. Play it, live life. 😉

1. What makes you dislike life?

Monotony. I like routine, but not monotony.

2. When has a mundane occurrence or chance completely changed the course of your life?

I met my husband by a random instant message because we both happened to be online at the same time.

3. What has taken up too much of your life?

Social media. For sure.

4. What is the most ridiculous rule you have to follow?

I have to keep a lot of my life a secret because of closed minded people.

5. What does the voice in your head say?

Feeeeeed me!

Bonus: What’s better than great sex?

Delicious food.

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Writing Update! #1000000Words

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We are 18 days into the new year. My goal for words is 49,193 words. My current count is 45,963. So, not too far off! I was super proud of myself that I stayed above my goal for a solid two weeks! On the 16th, I finally slipped below. Ah well. I knew it wouldn’t last forever. But I’ve spent a lot of time with friends and family, gaming and socializing. That’s important, too. So, I’ll just have to learn to live with being behind. And, I’ll work on catching up!

So far today, I’ve written 1710 words, and I am sitting on my grandfather’s old recliner (seriously, this thing is far older than I am), with my brand new electric blanket, snow falling. It’s a nostalgic place to write from, and hopefully it will prove to be productive, too. Write on!Snow covered tree

TMI Tuesday

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1.Would you rather have one nipple or two belly buttons?

Two belly buttons. I love my nipples. I’d take three, haha. Okay, maybe not, but it’s better than the alternative.

2. Would you rather always feel like someone is following you, but no one is, or always feel like someone is watching you, even though no one is?

I would rather feel like someone is watching me. I might like that. 😉

3. Would you rather have sex in a cave frequented by tourists or sex in a tree house in your parents’ backyard?

A cave frequented by tourists. Dangerous! Exciting! Sexy!

4. Would you rather be unable to use search engines or unable to use social media?

Search engines. I might be a tad addicted to social media. Plus, it’s fun to try to use our memories to figure out things of the past.

5. Would you rather get one free round trip international plane ticket every year or be able to fly domestic anytime for free?

One free round trip. I wouldn’t have the time for all that domestic travel anyway. Although, I do have a lot of friends spread out over the country and I would love to come visit.

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TMI Tuesday

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1. What is the most useless thing you know how to do?

I can wiggle my ears? That’s the best I can come up with.

2. Do you use sex to relieve stress? How?

Oh definitely. Being submissive, and getting a good beating is a HUGE stress reliever. I posted about that not too long ago, in fact.

3. What sex act or position did not thrill you until you tried it?

Golden showers. I definitely was not interested. And then I did a challenge on Fetlife (and I’m not one to back down from a challenge), and it turns out, I really like it.

4. What is the most unusual but fun sexual encounter you have had?

“Unusual” is difficult for me. I mean, the fact that my husband and I sleep with with other people on a regular basis is pretty unusual for most people I know, but probably not very unusual for most of my blog readers!

5. What is something that can happen in the middle of sex that will make you put on your clothes and walk out

Political talk. Specifically in support of a certain person who shall not be named.

Bonus: What was a random compliment that someone gave you that really stuck in your memory?

My smile lights up the room, like sunshine!

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New Year! #1,000,000Words

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We are now 3 days into 2020 and I am super psyched about my writing!

I used Rebekah Loper’s book The A-Zs of Worldbuilding to build a world! And now I’m writing in it! I definitely see series potential from this world, too. I’ve never gone this far away from reality before, and I am super excited to see where it leads. I’m also working on my A to Z Blog Challenge for 2020. I’m sure we’ll start hearing about that in the coming months.

Current stats: I have written 15,308 words so far (and I haven’t written today yet)! Even if I don’t write today, that puts me 7110 words ahead of where I need to be.

I also hope to have an announcement in the coming weeks about a new published novel! So things are exciting here on the writing front!

I hope everyone had an enjoyable holiday season, and that your January isn’t too dreary.

What am I leaving behind in 2019?

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Marquessa Matthews over at marquessamatthews.com wrote a great blog post asking what ONE THING will you leave behind in 2019?

I noticed that a lot of people around me had a pretty terrible year. I won’t say that my 2019 was all good, but the good definitely outweighed the bad. I’m excited to step into 2020, but there are a lot of things I am taking forward with me from 2019.

But when I turn that on its head and ask myself what I want to leave behind, the answer is clear to me: I want to leave behind my determination to be perfect.

No one is perfect. My favorite writers have typos in their work, even with professional editors. As I re-read some of my favorite novels, I notice inconsistencies in small details. And it doesn’t make me love the novel or the author any less. If anything, it makes me love them more to see that they are human just like me.

So, in 2020, I hope to be less perfect, and publish more. And definitely write more, since my goal is 1,000,000 words in 2020! (Does anyone want to join me on that? My friend Nicki is. In fact, it was her idea. And I am so excited!)

No matter how good (or bad) your 2019 was, here’s hoping 2020 is even better!

Say “I love you…”

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Tonight, my husband said I love you without those three words. After a grueling day that ended with multiple meltdowns (from me and our child), I sat down to do bills. He came up behind me and said, “Do you need a beating?” I looked up at him in surprise and he said, “I know when you get stressed, sometimes you need that release.”

And damn if he isn’t right.

TMI Tuesday

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TMI Tuesday, the Christmas edition.

1. Have you ever kissed someone under mistletoe?

Of course! I love mistletoe!

2. Eggnog or hot chocolate?

Eggnog, I guess, but I’m not super fond of either.

3. Colored or white lights on a Christmas tree?

Colored lights. Rainbow it up! I used to love rearranging the lights on the tree so there weren’t too many of one color in a clump.

4. Real or fake Christmas tree?

Fake, but only because I’m allergic to real.

5. What tops your Christmas tree?

A star, usually.

6. Candy canes, yuck or yum?

They’re okay. The fruit ones are better.

7. What is your favorite holiday dessert?

Cookies! Peanut Butter, to be exact.

Bonus: Are you going on holiday during the December holiday season? Where?

I am! Well, I’m visiting my husband’s family. But they live in the south, so that’s a nice change of pace. I’m looking forward to it!

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What do the following have in common?

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What do the following have in common?

  • 16.6x Lord of the Flies
  • 12x Anne Frank: The Diary of a Young Girl
  • 7.2x 2000 Leagues Under the Sea
  • 2.4x Gone With the Wind
  • 2.2 The Lord of the Rings
  • 1.7x War and Peace
  • 1x A Dance to the Music of Time by Anthony Powell

They all equal 1,000,000 words!

And in 2020, I am committing to write 1,000,000 words.

No, I am not writing an epic novel, though that would be cool. But I will write 1,000,000 words. My goal is to write them all fiction, but I am going to include blog posts, because maybe I’ll actually write in my blog more then (and not just TMI Tuesdays, though I love doing those). Most of my blog is fiction, anyway.

Is anyone crazy enough to join me?

A friend of mine is!

Is anyone else?

Probably not. But if you are, let me know, because we are totally down for more crazy people writing All. The. Words.

And of course, dear reader, check back here for updates!

TMI Tuesday

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Woah boy, it’s been a while. Sorry about that… Anywhoooo:

1. Christmas music is everywhere. It has been on the radio in my area since mid-November! If you had to listen to Christmas music, from one artist, non-stop during December who would be crooning those holiday tunes? (must pick one). Why did you make that choice?
a. Harry Connick Jr.
b. Mariah Carey – I might actually really like her over-played songs. Go ahead. Judge me.

2. In 2019, in the bedroom, were you mostly naughty or nice?

3. In your next sexcapade, who will be joining you (must pick one)? Why is that your choice?
a. Mr and Mrs Santa Claus
b. Grinch
c. Frosty the snowman
d. 4 of Santa’s elves – a gang bang has always been on my bucket list…

4. Do you celebrate any holidays in December? If yes, what?

I do! Christmas most specifically, but also New Year’s.

5. How will you be spreading holiday cheer in 2019?

I am a pretty cheerful person all the time, so I’m not much different, but I LOVE giving gifts. Love, love, love.

Bonus: What Netflix holiday movie do you recommend we watch? I actually have never watched any. I know, that’s a surprise. But, I really like The Holiday with Cameron Diaz and Kate Winslet which is on Hulu.

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TMI Tuesday

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From http://propertyofpotter.com :
1. What strange areas of your body are ticklish?

Every part of my body is ticklish. I wish I were kidding, but I’m not. Every. Part.

From https://scarletrosevixen.wordpress.com :
2. What is something you are interested in sexually, but only on a purely fantasy level? Something that you think about but could never fully act on.

Being a 24/7 submissive. I love the idea of being a slave, I even wrote a book about it. It was my first published novel.

From http://truepleasuresreviews.com :
3. If you could have a week of the best sex ever in human history but you had to have a fish head as your head for the rest of your life, after that week, would you do it?

Uh, I don’t think so. Having a fish head sounds fun and all, but…

From http://sexualitysanctuary.blogspot.ca :
4. What do you consider taboo and have you ever ventured into this territory? Was it a great, good, bad or horrific experience?

There are a lot of taboo fetishes that I have been interested in. (In fact, some of them are featured in the book I referenced above.) I have ventured into some of them, and I have had really good experiences over all. It helps having a very non-judgy partner.

From http://www.shadowedseductress.com :
5. What part of your body do you consider the most unusual that you enjoy being stimulated?

Most unusual… Hm. The parts that I like being stimulated are having my hair played with, my feet rubbed, my back rubbed (touched, whatever)… Oh, I know! I like it when someone gently caresses the line where my bra goes under my breasts and the crease where my thighs meet my pubic area. Those areas get really sore sometimes, and it feels nice to have them stimulated.

Bonus:

From http://herprivateisland.com :
If you could make a porn film/video with any celebrity, who would it be and why?

Angelina Jolie. I have been enamored with her for as long as I can remember. She’s so beautiful.

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TMI Tuesday

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1. What makes you insecure?

Anything where I don’t know what to expect. If I have been somewhere before, or have someone with me who has, I am much less insecure.

2. What do you expect from a romantic love relationship?

Openness, honesty, communication.

3. What do you expect from a friendship?

Openness, honesty, communication. The only difference is that we don’t have romance/love.

4. What do you expect from a Friends-with-Benefits situation?

Openness, honesty, communication. Actually, I’m not sure I can do Friends-with-Benefits. I get too attached, fall too hard, or however you want to think of it. I much prefer a relationship.

5. What expectations do you have for yourself?

Always do better than the last time. Do my best, all the time. Sometimes, that’s a tall order.

Bonus:   Post one picture (art, photograph, drawing) that depicts how you feel today.

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TMI Tuesday

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1. For you happy life = ? + ? + ?

Family+Friends+Time+Love

2. How confident are you that your relationship will last?

Very. 15 years and counting, and very much in love, despite the odds.

3. Studies show exercise can improve your mood in the moment and play a preventative role for the future. How often do you exercise? What is your exercise?

I like going to the gym, but I rarely have time for it lately. It does make me feel good, though. I can’t wait to be able to go back on a more regular basis.

4. How recently has someone been hurt by your actions? Did you attempt to make things right or apologize?

Very recently. I always try to make things right and/or apologize. Immediately and always.

5. Solitude– do you welcome it or loathe it?

I am about 99% extrovert. So, I don’t care for a lot of solitude.

Bonus: Share with us something you haven’t told a partner but would like to.

I’m pretty open with my partners. Like, maybe too much sometimes. I legitimately can’t think of anything I haven’t told my partners. If I think of something to tell them, I tell them.

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