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Eventually Ever After: Part 5

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by Jayden

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We spent the next week trying to figure out what the hell we were going to do about everything. We were developing feelings for each other, and now that we had acknowledged that, they were moving quickly. But we hadn’t had sex yet. And that was driving me crazy.

One of the days Richard came over to my house, he said, “You know, I think we should wait until after Thanksgiving to have sex.”

I wanted to be okay with it, but… He whispered to me so that no one else could hear, “You aren’t used to being told no, are you?”

I shook my head. I wasn’t. I generally got what I wanted, and I liked it that way. Richard was going to be an interesting challenge.

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30 Days of Submission and Domination

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We’re continuing answering the questions from our list. Check last week’s if you missed them!

What does trust mean to you in the context of submission?

Richard: Trusting my Dominant to set up a scene that we can both enjoy, be safe, etc.

Jayden: Being able to let go and trust in my Dominant is most of what makes it alluring to me. Knowing that he (or she) will take care of me, push me right to the edge, and be there to hold me when it’s over is the deepest trust.

Very often the stereotype of submission is that the submissive person loses the ability to have an opinion. While that clearly isn’t true except in the absolute rarest of occasions, how does communication factor into your submission and how do you communicate your desires and needs?

Richard: I’m a very chatty sub, I think it’s nervous energy. I’m perfectly willing to beg and whine for what I want/need. If I don’t get it, sometimes I switch back into Dom space and take it anyway.

Jayden: When I get into that submissive headspace, I find it very hard to have an opinion. I just want to please my Dom. I don’t care about anything else. I get off on his pleasure. So it’s hard to express anything for me. If I need to, I will. And often Richard asks what I want. Usually my answer is something along the lines of, “Whatever you want, Sir.” And I mean that. 100%.

What does trust mean to you in the context of domination?

Richard: That I’ll take care of my submissive and make sure they’re safe, limits are respected, that sort of thing.

Jayden: Having someone put their trust in me to protect them and respect their limits in a kinky scene is a lot of responsibility. It’s also the reason I am not great at taking on long-term submissives.

Very often the stereotype of dominance is that the dominant person gets anything they want, without regard for the sub. While that clearly isn’t true except in the absolute rarest of occasions, how does communication factor into your dominance and how do you communicate with your sub?

Richard: Jayden and I both like doing questionnaires, checklists, etc. so we’ve done quite a few of those to help get a feel for where we both feel on certain kinks. We try to pick a few kinks, questions, etc. and talk about them when we go for a walk, drive, etc. Sometimes, we both write out our answers ahead of time and swap them to help make sure we’re giving an honest one.

Jayden: As a Domme, I love the questionnaires and checklists Richard mentioned. And although I like being dominant from time to time, I’m usually doing it to fulfil someone else’s desires. That’s the core of all of my kink. So finding out what they are interested in ahead of time is crucial for me.

We’d love to hear your answers! Feel free to answer some/all in the comments or give us links to your blog if you answered them there!

Human Furniture

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We’re a little bit late with our post for today, and it’s not a continuation of our previous Sunday story. So to make up for it, you get this fun standalone piece Richard wrote for Kinktober. The prompt was human furniture, and I think he takes a fun and sexy take on it. Enjoy!

“Welcome to SUBKEA. What can we get for you today?” the salessub asked. He had a ballgag dangling around his neck. You could tell he really wanted to put it on, but that’s how working retail is–can’t dress how you want. The rest of his outfit was black leather (spill-resistant, I would later learn) save for the glass tabletop on his back.

“We’re looking for a new chair,” I said, nodding towards you. “This one is getting a little worn out.”

It was true; your upholstery was worn through on your ass. “And I want to treat her to something nice for our anniversary.”

“Aww, congratulations!” he said, “Did you want to stick with the fabric or switch to leather?”

“You can pick, sweetie. It’s your present after all.”

“What do you recommend?” you asked him. “I want to be nice and cozy. I’m helping him decorate a new reading nook for his present.”

It was a good thing he didn’t have the ballgag in; I’m pretty sure he threw up in his mouth a little.

“Oh, definitely leather then. We can set it up like a cute little study. Do you smoke?” he asked me. “We’ve got some great new stuff that you can put a cigar out on and barely mark it up at all.”

“I don’t,” I said. “But I could definitely start.”

“Mmm, let’s get you a tweed jacket. You can be my professor anytime, Daddy.” My chair wrapped her arms around mine, looking up and winking at me. The salesub lead us towards the back of the store. I got a sharp elbow to the ribs, followed by a little pout when I looked at a pair of chubby subs for a little too long, their Master and Mistress able to use them together as a love seat.

“So, this is our best-seller, DEVOTION. It comes in two pieces, like most of our armchairs. The frame is oak, good and solid, ergonomically designed to put minimal pressure on the sub, just enough to give you that safe feeling. We start with a frame size, you’re probably a medium, and then custom cut it to you.”

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Eventually Ever After: Part 4

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by Jayden

After our kiss, okay, several kisses, we got back to work. At least, for a little while.

“May I please go pee, Sir?” I asked. I had been asking him for permission to pee for… I don’t know how long. A few weeks, I think. It was another thing with us that I don’t know how it happened, but it did. I suppose it was probably in response to some kind of fiction I wrote and a text conversation we had. Nick wasn’t into water sports, so I had no one to play with, and Richard was. Richard was happy to give me permission (or not) to pee. It was hot.

“You may,” he said.

I groaned.

“What’s wrong?”

“My pants are soaked through,” I said. “Putting them back on is going to be gross.”

“Do you want another pair of pants?” he asked.

“Oh, maybe,” I said.

“You can let yours dry out before you have to go. Let me see what I have.”

He rummaged around in his drawers and came up with a pair of pants that had Batman logos on them. I went into the bathroom, did my thing, and put them on. There was no full-length mirror in there, but I put them on and looked down, and all I could think was that they made my thighs look massive.

I was very insecure about my body. I rarely, if ever, felt attractive. One of my biggest concerns with meeting Richard the way I had was that he hadn’t really seen me in person much. What if he didn’t like the way I looked when he saw me naked? What if he didn’t like my thighs and ass?

I almost took the pants off and put my wet ones back on, but then I decided…fuck it. He hadn’t seen me naked yet, but if he didn’t like me in the pants, he definitely wasn’t going to like me naked.

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40 Kinky Questions – Jayden

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We came across this set of questions that we thought we would answer for you in the absence of the Erotic Journal Challenge. Though, for us, this set of questions was very tame, haha. But here are my answers, and next week, Richard will answer them! Feel free to play along and answer the questions in a comment or drop the link to your blog where you answered the questions!

1. Have you ever had sex in three or more positions in one session?

Oh yeah, absolutely. Fun times. 🙂

2. Have you ever had sex continuously for 1 hour or more?

Intercourse? I don’t think so. But a sexual scene, absolutely.

3. Have you ever devoted an entire day to sex and sexual activity (with breaks for eating, etc)?

Yes! Richard and I did that just recently, in fact.

4. Have you ever been so loud having sex that housemates/neighbors commented or complained?

Yeah, I’ve been heard before. I can get quite loud.

5. Have you ever had your sexual technique/style/skill openly praised by someone?

Yes. I like getting compliments. I work hard for them.

6. Have you ever written an explicitly erotic story?

I don’t know… have I?

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30 Days of Submission and Domination

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We’re continuing answering the questions from our list. Check last week’s if you missed them!

Do you include financial submission within the definition of your own submission and if yes, how does it manifest itself? If no, is there a particular reason why? Are you familiar with the concepts of financial submission? Do you have an opinion about financial submission in general?

Richard: I do not. No Dom I’ve been with has ever asked for it, and I don’t think I’m particularly interested in doing it anyway. In general, I think it’s a rather dangerous kink, though obviously not in the traditional way. Realistically, a lot of relationships already have financial dynamics that may or may not be sexual. If it’s okay to pay for sex, or to rely on your partner financially, I don’t think making a kink out of it necessarily does any harm.

Jayden: I haven’t, and I don’t think I would. I don’t have a lot of extra money, so I don’t know how it would be helpful. And, as much as I enjoy depending on my Dom for lots of things, finances isn’t one of them. I like knowing that I can stand on my own and take care of myself.

Is sexual availability, being available to your partner any time he or she wants, part of your submission? Why or why not? Are there limits to this?

Richard: It’s not, but I think I could enjoy it. Because I only sub sporadically and for short time periods, it doesn’t really come up. I’d be interested in it. I think it’d be fun, and I have a bit of an exhibitionist streak, which could play into it. Don’t get me fired. That’s definitely a limit.

Jayden: Yes, absolutely. In fact, the more I feel like he’s using me for his pleasure, the more I like it.

Does religion have any bearing on your decision to submit? If not, are you familiar with religious based submission and do you view it as similar to other types of submission or dissimilar?

Richard: It doesn’t. My religious background is pretty sex-negative. I do have a Domme friend who does some religious play, and it’s never really interested me. Overall, I’d say more similar than non, it’s just another “flavor.”

Jayden: Nope. It’s just not a thing for me. I do like that Richard calls me goddess sometimes (note the lowercase g!) but that’s not based in religion. I don’t think I’ve ever known anyone who had that particular kink, but as Richard said, it’s similar to other types of kink, especially ‘taboo’ ones.

Do you include financial domination within the definition of your own dominance and if yes, how does it manifest itself? If no, is there a particular reason why? Are you familiar with the concepts of financial domination? Do you have an opinion about financial domination in general?

Richard: I’d love to have a pay pig, sugar daddy/mommy slut, whatever. Who doesn’t want some extra spending money, or someone to buy me fun toys (which I can then use on other subs for extra fun)? Jayden and I sort of played around with this before we left her other partner. Another partner I had had a toy that an ex Dom had bought for her, that she “wasn’t supposed” to use with anyone else. That added a fun little twist to using it. I’m more comfortable doing fin Dom as a Dom than as a sub.

Jayden: As a Domme, I’m not sure I could do it. It sounds fun, and like Richard said, it would be fun to have a little extra from time to time, but I think I would feel bad about it.

Is sexual availability, being available to your partner any time he or she wants, part of your dominance? Why or why not? Are there limits to this?

Richard: For me, some degree of availability or free use is a basic part of sexual submission. For Jayden, this is more or less literally true, I can do what I want, when I want, no questions asked. For other subs, this was more of a role play affectations. Generally, I try to be flexible about using it in compromising or public situations, though they’re also one of my favorite times to use it. As I remind Jayden, “what’s the point of having a slave if you have to ask?”

Jayden: I think it is to an extent, but as Richard said with submission, I’m mostly a sub, so as a Domme, I don’t know if it works quite the same way. That being said, if I want my sub, I want them on my time.

Does religion have any bearing on your decision to dominate? If not, are you familiar with religious based dominance and do you view it as similar to other types of dominance or dissimilar?

Richard: I’ve done some religious play with some subs, but it’s not one of my primary dynamics. Jayden calls me the God of Rape sometimes. If it’s literally religious based, as opposed to just a roleplay scenario or something, it sounds pretty ripe for abuse.

Jayden: Nope, not at all. I’ve never even attempted it, and I don’t know that I would. It’s one thing to be (as Richard said) the God or Goddess of something, but I don’t think that’s exactly what we’re talking about here.

We’d love to hear your answers! Feel free to answer some/all in the comments or give us links to your blog if you answered them there!

Role Reversal 2

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We decided to do a little role reversal. Here’s Part 2 of our story started two weeks ago.

He undressed slowly, undoing each button with an almost exaggerated motion. She watched him, amused. Did he think that prolonging his punishment was going to make it less severe? She hoped he wasn’t that naive. In fact, the longer it took, the more aroused she got, the more she would like using him.

When he finally worked his way down to the bottom of the shirt and slid it off, letting it fall to the floor at his feet.

He reached down and undid the belt on his pants, not taking quite so long to remove it, before folding it in half and holding it out for her. “Wouldn’t want you to be without a toy for your toy, Mistress.”

She nodded her approval but stayed silent as she watched him continue undressing. She gripped the belt tightly in her hands, feeling the tension in her muscles as she ached to begin unleashing pain on her pet.

He buttoned his jeans and slid down the fly, revealing the bulge in his boxers. He had to hook both fingers into the waistband and wriggle his ass, but he eventually managed to shimmy them down. “Underwear too, Mistress?” he asked.

“Yes, pet. I want to see the welts forming on your bare ass when I beat it.” She slid the leather belt through her palm and then slapped the two halves of the belt together. It sounded impressive.

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Eventually Ever After: Part 3

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by Jayden

I could continue on in journal style, but I think it would be a lot more fun if I give you a more… fictionalized version. Snippets, scenes, and stories that are, if not 100% accurate, pretty close. I’ve definitely had to fill in the gaps in my memory sometimes, and I’m sure the dirty talk isn’t exactly the words we said, but it’s pretty close. Richard has definitely said all of them in some combination or other.

So we’ll start with our first time…

The night before, Richard and I had spent some time without Nick. It was all public stuff. We had some gifts to give to a mutual friend, so I picked him up, and we went over to her apartment. But with the pandemic and everything, it was a quick, socially distanced visit. Even so, she realized how much alike Richard and I were. It was uncanny. Although he had interacted with her online before, they hadn’t spent much time together in person.

It had been nice to be able to talk with Richard without anyone else around. We had been skirting lines for a while. I wasn’t supposed to cyber with anyone, and we came…close. Very close. But we hadn’t totally crossed that line, at least.

I had lingered over slightly deflated tires, taking my time pumping them up with my portable pump. And then I had to go inside and wash my hands, of course.

We talked a lot, and we hugged, but we didn’t kiss. And we didn’t cross any lines.

“I want to go write at Richard’s,” I told Nick that morning. He looked at me with narrow eyes. “I can’t get anything done here.” Our house was always busy, especially during the lockdown where no one had anywhere else to be.

“Okay,” he said. I couldn’t tell if he was actually okay with it or not, but that was typical. He didn’t express himself well.

I said that I would be back in time for dinner, packed up my stuff, and off I went. Richard and I did a pretty good job of focusing on our writing and following the rules. Mostly.

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Erotic Journal Challenge

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So… Unfortunately, the Erotic Journal Challenge seems to have gone defunct. Oh no!

So that leaves us with a hole in the schedule for Fridays. So what we want to know is What do you want to see more of? Our survey is only two questions long, and one is optional! Please let us know!

For this week, we thought we would ask and answer our own question since we didn’t have one to do. The question we’re asking is:

Where is the craziest place you’ve had sex?

Jayden: I have two good ones. One was on a bridge over a highway. We we were college students living with roommates and having no privacy, so that was how we solved it. Afterward, he bet me that he could hit a car with the condom. He did. Just a bumper, but he did. (Please note: We do not advise doing such a thing!)

The second was in the snow. It was sexy and fun, mostly because it’s fun to be able to say “I had sex in the snow,” but in reality, it was just fucking cold!

Richard: I don’t think I have any as good as Jayden. Probably when I had sex at the bottom of a stairwell in college. Both of our roomies were total homebodies, and it was the only place without cameras. It echoed a lot though, I wonder if anyone heard.

So tell us: what’s the craziest place you’ve had sex?

30 Days of Submission and Domination

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We’re continuing answering the questions from our list. Check last week’s if you missed them!

Do you accept and/or expect structure, rules and limits as a part of your submission? How do you feel about them?

Richard: Rules are meant to be broken, because I am a bad boy and the whole point of subbing is to make you mad and get spankings.

Jayden: I do accept and expect structure, rules, and limits. In fact, they make me feel safe and cared for. Richard has made mention a few times of how much work being a Dom can be, and this is where a lot of that work comes in. As much as it sucks for the Dom to have to put in the work, it’s super important to me to have those rules and structures. I always do my best to make it easy on him, and being Good helps a lot. I want to follow the rules, and the only times I’ve ever broken them, it was accidental. But it’s vital to me as a sub to have that.

Do you include service as a part of your expectations of your submission? How do you define service? What does it mean to you? If not, what is it about the concept of service that is not for you?

Richard: I do. I’m a people pleaser in general, so it comes out pretty naturally in my submission. I would define service as taking care of, or doing, things for others. I don’t think it necessarily has to be sexual, baking brownies can be service too.

Jayden: Yes. If my Dom tells/asks me to do something, I’ll do it, no questions asked. Although we generally don’t do service submission outside the “bedroom”, it’s something we’re toying with and maybe working toward. As Richard said, service is taking care of or doing things for others. I like taking care of my partner, especially as a submissive.

Do you accept and/or expect structure, rules and limits as a part of your dominance? How do you feel about them?

Richard: I respect my sub’s limits, etc. and the structures we’ve put in place to keep everyone safe and comfortable. In terms of rules as part of the power exchange, we use a few. The main one is that Jayden has to ask my permission before she can pee. Again, they’re fun to do, but they have to be set up properly to make sure they don’t turn into a chore for one, or both, of us.

Jayden: I do. I like structure, in general, but I also don’t want to be a long-term Dominant, so it’s not something I do a lot. I have, in the past, had some of those structures, but as Richard said, it became a chore for me.

Do you include service as a part of your expectations of your submissive? How do you define service? What does it mean to you? If not, what is it about the concept of service that is not for you?

Richard: I do. We don’t have a lot of formal service rules right now, but I’ll occasionally tell her to take care of something for me, refill my drink, etc. It’s one of my favorite complications to add to our bathroom rule (you can pee after you bring me a snack, etc.) I’ve done formal service play on occasion with other subs. I think Jayden would be good for it, but it’s not a super Covid friendly scene. Maybe next summer. As a Dominant, I define service (in a kink context) primarily as tasks given to the sub to humiliate them, remind them of their place, etc. Which is pretty different from my sub answer.

Jayden: I do. As a Dom, I really like service in the form of pampering. (I like it as a sub, too, but it’s different.) Massages, lotion, bringing me things, making me feel good. Those are great ways to service me as a Domme.

We’d love to hear your answers! Feel free to answer some/all in the comments or give us links to your blog if you answered them there!

Eventually Ever After: Part 2

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by Jayden

Once upon a time, in a land far, far away.

No, that’s not it.

I suppose I could go all the way back to high school, really. I suppose I should, in fact. When I was 17, it occurred to me that I needed to date more people. I needed to experience life. So I broke up with my boyfriend and started dating. I turned 18, graduated high school, and dated six people that summer before I went off to college. Most of them were fleeting, but one stuck around.

Nick and I started talking online and quickly formed a bond. We accidentally met in person when we both attended the same event, and then we started hanging out regularly. But the catch was that he was married. He and his wife had an open relationship, and she knew everything we did. In fact, she knew so much partially because she controlled everything.

I spent much of that summer at their house. I got to know their kids, and I became friends with his wife. And then I went off to college. Once I was out of her grasp and she couldn’t control me anymore, things went to hell.

There I was, 300 miles away, 18 years old, with a 33-year-old boyfriend who was married with kids. Oof.

I could wax on for pages and pages and pages. In fact, I did. I kept a journal throughout that time that ended up being about 120 single-spaced typed pages. Ha! It was a lot of teenage bull shit, honestly. I read through a lot of it last year.

So when I say “long story short,” I truly mean very long story short.

The whole time that we were apart, we were both dating other people. Actually, I think I was more so than Nick. But eventually, Nick did as well. I ended up dating someone pretty seriously. We considered marriage, but in the end, he wasn’t someone I would want to spend the rest of my life with.

By the time I was a senior in college, Nick and I weren’t dating anyone else, and I was hoping that we would get engaged. We did end up getting engaged and eventually married. We identified being “poly” and dabbled in dating other people. As it turned out, we decided that it was better for us to date together. Sounds good, right?

Ehhhhh.

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#EroticJournalChallenge Bucket List

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Create or revisit your erotic/sexual bucket list.

Richard: I don’t think I have one. I guess I’ll start one now. Convince Riley to come hang out with us, we don’t even have to have sex, I just want him to come clean my kitchen in a maid outfit.

I’d like to have a threesome with Jayden and another sub. I want to watch her Domme someone else. That’s not really Jayden specific, it’s a fantasy I have with most switchy partners. 

More cuckold type stuff would be fun. 

I want to have sex up against the glass of a high up window in a sky scraper. Probably no one will see, but you never know…

I’d like to go to a sub hunt and chase someone down to ravage them. 

I want to do posture training where the sub has to sit/stand just right or else the chains that’re clamped/pierced to their clit, nipples, ass, etc. will dig in painfully.

Jayden: Well now. I’m not even sure where to begin here.

The thing is, if you had asked me this question six months ago, I would have said hands down, the only thing I wanted that I hadn’t experienced were an orgy and a gang bang. For someone who was in a ‘poly’ relationship (more on why I put that in quotes…at another time), I really thought it was surprising that I’ve never had an orgy.

And I’ve always wanted to have a gang bang. I’ve watched porn with it before and was very turned on by it. It would probably be a lot, too much maybe, but very hot. I feel like it might be one of those things I wanted to experience once.

That being said, there were a lot of kinks I never knew I had (or didn’t know how deep they ran) until very recently. So maybe my bucket list had more things on it than I thought. (Breath play, rape play, knife play, watersports… to name a few…)

So this week, I’ll share with you a fiction snapshot of a fantasy I’ve had for a loooong time.

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30 Days of Submission and Domination

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We’re continuing answering the questions from our list. Check last week’s if you missed them!

Does any element of BDSM occur as a part of your submissive relationships? How do you feel about BDSM? Is it core to your submission, peripheral or non-existent (other than the submission part)?

Richard: I love being bound (and then trying to get out of them and being punished for it) and have a fairly strong masochistic streak. I certainly can sub without them, but they are some of my favorite parts.

Jayden: There are so many parts of BDSM that are important as a submissive for me. I am the polar opposite of a brat, and I try very hard to follow the rules and be Good. It is the core of my submission. If I think Master will like it, I’ll do it and be happy about it. Not because I don’t want to tell him no but because I really, really like it when I’m doing something for the express purpose of pleasing Master.

Do you accept and/or expect discipline or punishments as a part of your submission? How do you feel about it?

Richard: I don’t expect them, but I don’t really mind them either. Mostly it’s just an excuse to get spanked.

Jayden: I don’t like being punished. As Richard demonstrated the other day, all he has to do is scold me and I cower, even when I didn’t do anything wrong and he was doing it as a joke to show our friend. I still got upset (until he told me I was a Good Girl and gave me scritches). But if I do break the rules, then yeah, I’ll certainly accept a punishment, and I have no doubt I would get one.

Is spanking or corporal punishment a part of your submission? Why or why not?

Richard: If I’m not getting spanked, I’m clearly behaving too well.

Jayden: (He’s such a brat!) I get maintenance spankings at least once a week, and I like that, but I don’t want to be spanked as part of a punishment. Mostly because he’d have to spank me really hard for me not to enjoy it.

Does any element of BDSM occur as a part of your dominant relationships? How do you feel about BDSM? Is it core to your dominance, peripheral or non-existent (other than the dominance part)?

Richard: I’ve done some bondage with most partners. Jayden mostly gets tied down so I can make her orgasm too many times in a row. We also do a lot of S&M. Jayden is a huge pain slut, and I’m happy to deliver.

Jayden: I don’t do well as a long-term Dom, so as much as I like it, it’s just something I do for a scene here or there.

Do you accept and/or expect discipline or punishments as a part of your Dominance? How do you feel about it?

Richard: As the Dom, keeping up on punishments can take a lot of energy. It’s one thing to do a funishment and give someone a couple dozen slaps for being bad, but actually tracking, enforcing, etc. rules, and taking the time to punish them when broken, is a lot of time and effort. I’d like to do it more, but it requires a fairly motivated and coordinated sub to keep it from turning into work.

Jayden: I’m not great at giving out punishments. I’m often too nice. I did have a sub once who expected all of his punishments to be things like spanking (which he liked). When I threatened to put him in a corner and not talk to him for 20 minutes, he was really upset, and I pointed out that it was meant to be a punishment, not a funishment. He didn’t like that.

Have you found your dominance has changIs spanking or corporal punishment a part of your dominance? Why or why not?

Richard: Jayden gets a maintenance spanking most Sundays. She gets occasional spankings, canings, etc. when she deserves it as well. We generally try to do punishment directly related to whatever rule she broke, partially because it’s more effective, and partially because she enjoys pain too much for it to be much of a deterrent.

Jayden: I like spanking for play, but not so much as a punishment, and that goes for both my submission and my Domination.

We’d love to hear your answers! Feel free to answer some/all in the comments or give us links to your blog if you answered them there!

Role Reversal

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Richard and I decided to mix it up a little bit with this series. Enjoy!

She looked down at her submissive, kneeling in front of her. Standing, he was much taller than her, but kneeling… She liked looking down at him, ready to serve her. His brown hair fell down over his forehead, and she resisted the urge to brush it back. She wasn’t here to be loving. She was here to be stern. Punishing.

“Is this outfit appropriate, Mistress?” he asked. A tight pair of black jeans that would give her trouble when she took them off framed his ass, with a light blue (her favorite) button-down on top. The collar around his neck jingled a little as he tried not to shake with nerves.

“It’ll do,” she said, feigning disdain. She hadn’t decided what she was going to do with him first, but she was enjoying making him tremble.

He looked down at her boots, nodding slightly. “This is why I like it when you take me out to the nude clubs, Mistress. Then all I need to wear are whatever marks you left on me or anything you wanted to write on my body.”

“Oh, don’t worry, pet. You’ll be naked soon enough.” She stopped resisting and ran her fingers through his hair, but as her hand went across the back of his head, she grabbed his hair and tilted his head back so he had to look up at her. “Tell Mistress why you’re here.”

He whined and went mostly slack in her grip, “To show off? To dance with? To fetch drinks?” he dropped off, then paused. “For whatever will please my Mistress?” he asked with a wince. 

“Did you forget so soon the mistake you made, pet?” She yanked on his hair a little harder.

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Eventually Ever After: Part 1

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by Jayden

Those of you who have been around a while know that I used to do this blog solo. But “doing this blog” is a stretch, honestly. I created it to write for the A to Z Blog Challenge, which I quickly became a host for. But in between April A to Z, my posts were sparse. One year I managed to do a daily update on my NaNo words, but that’s about it. Otherwise, I have been super inconsistent.

Back in November, I met (and started dating) someone from my writing group, and we quickly realized that we write some of the same types of content and have similar writing styles. I asked if he would be interested in joining me as a co-blogger. And thus, my partnership with Richard was formed.

We started writing together officially in January (though we wrote often in December so we would have things ready to post) and continued dating. Throughout the last few months, TMI Tuesday has made it pretty clear that we’re in a relationship, not that it was a secret, but it was to many of my personal family and friends.

See, my husband and I were poly (“were” – did you catch that past tense?), and because of my job situation, I have kept my personal life, well, personal. Even my daughter didn’t know. She knew Richard, she’d met him many times, but she didn’t know we were involved. We were going to tell her, and then we didn’t, and in the end, it worked out that we didn’t say anything to her. If you had talked to October Jayden and explained what things would look like even in February, she would NOT have believed you, and she certainly would not have believed you if you told her where she would be in August.

But this blog is mostly anonymous. A few of my friends know it’s me, but there’s nothing I would say here that they don’t already know. So as Richard and I discussed ways that we can increase posting to the blog, he encouraged me to be more raw and honest with my readers and tell you the story of what’s actually going on in my life.

With the exception of TMI Tuesday, I’ve been pretty strictly focused on fiction. And that’s great, definitely in my comfort zone. But my life is interesting, and in fact, I am going to write it into a novel. It will probably be partially fictionalized, but the story is interesting. In April, I wrote a novel that was loosely based on my life and experiences, but there were so many parts that were SO far out there, it would be unbelievable.

So if you’re interested in hearing about the stranger than fiction story of how this blogger came to be where she is today, come back every Saturday from now until ?? to hear the tale.

Be sure to come back tomorrow to see some new collaboration from Richard and Jayden!

#EroticJournalChallenge Advice

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What advice would you give to someone who has never had sex before?

Jayden: I spent a lot of time too shy or scared to tell my partners if I liked (or didn’t like) something. Sure, I used my safe word a handful of times over the years, but it had to be *really* bad for me to do that. I would rather please my partner than tell them I was uncomfortable.

And the thing is, I’m not talking about being emotionally uncomfortable. That’s different. I’m talking about doing things in the bedroom that are mildly uncomfortable, too many fingers, too rough, etc. Sometimes I really like those things, and other times I don’t. Even just saying, “Hey, I really need two fingers inside me to be able to cum when you’re going down on me.” For whatever reason, I have always had trouble saying things like that.

And listen: every partner is different. Every partner likes things done a different way. And that’s okay.

I asked my friend once about fingers inside her when a guy is going down on her, and she said she hates it. I love it. Neither is right or wrong, just different. Both are good. But both need to be communicated to your partner. It’s great to pay attention to your partner’s reactions and see what they respond to, but it’s not foolproof, and especially when it’s a new relationship, it’s better to communicate those types of things to your partner. I promise, it’ll be a better experience.

On the flip side!

If a partner gives you advice on what they like, don’t take it personally. I know that that was a tricky thing for me once or twice, when someone said something like, “I really like the thing you did with your hand,” or “I like the way you use your tongue better.” It’s not a personal slight. It’s just telling you the way they like things done. Since everyone is different, you need that advice. Take it, learn from it, and have pleasurable sex for BOTH partners.

Richard: You should try it, it’s pretty cool. 

Just check in with your partner and see what they’re into. I dunno, basically Jayden’s answer.

Don’t miss tomorrow’s feature! It’s a surprise, but I think you’ll like it.

30 Days of Submission and Domination

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We’re continuing answering the questions from our list. Check last week’s if you missed them!

Has your submission evolved over time? If so, how has it evolved for you and if not (or if you are just starting out) how might you see or imagine it evolving in the future?

Richard: I don’t think it’s evolved in any particular way. I’ve gotten more comfortable with it, and hope to continue to do so in the future.

Jayden: My submission has definitely changed over time. When I first started playing with submission, I was mostly a switch who liked being told what to do. I still like being told what to do, but I also know better what I like and don’t like. But even that changes. Richard teases me frequently that he doesn’t know what to believe when I say things like, “I don’t like sensation play,” because apparently I do like it, I just didn’t know that before. As for it evolving, Richard and I have been together for about 8 months and my likes have changed, my horizons have been expanded. I’m sure there’s a limit to that, but it’s hard for me to imagine my submission being the same six months from now, I just have no idea what it will look like.

Has your submission increased or decreased over time? Have you ever had to renegotiate your submission due to a change in your feelings or circumstance?

Richard: I’d say about the same. I was always more Dom than sub, and I don’t think the particular ratio has changed a lot. Because I don’t sub often or in sustained/out of scene contexts, I don’t have to do a lot of renegotiating.

Jayden: Increased, definitely. My relationship with Richard has blown it out of the water. We aren’t quite 24/7, but… it’s not that far off at this point. I’m much more comfortable with myself as a submissive than I used to be. It’s freeing to feel and express.

Have you found your submission has changed with different partners/relationships? If you’re involved with partners of both sexes, does your submission relate or change based on gender or does it depend on the person?

Richard: I think all sexuality changes from partner to partner. Different Doms like different things, and I generally let them direct the play when I do switch. I think generally women I’ve subbed for have been more masochistic than the men, but I don’t think that I have a big enough sample size to say that’s a preference vs coincidence.

Jayden: I haven’t had any Dommes at this point, so gender hasn’t played a role at all. But yes, my submission has changed with my partners. I need a strong Dom who can handle pushing me for me to reach my full submissive potential.

Has your dominance evolved over time? If so, how has it evolved for you and if not (or if you are just starting out) how might you see or imagine it evolving in the future?

Richard: I think I’ve become more confident, and less of an asshole. I would like to continue in the same vein. 

Jayden: I was a switch in my teen years, just because I was trying things out. Then I became mostly a sub (like 90% sub). And then I started to get comfortable in a more dominant role, and now I’m back to being mostly submissive. It’s really been all over the place, mostly based on what’s going on in my life. I find being dominant very stressful. It takes a lot of energy for me. So when life is stressful, I don’t want the responsibility of being a Domme.

Has your dominance increased or decreased over time? Have you ever had to renegotiate your dominance due to a change in your feelings or circumstance?

Richard: I don’t think I’ve become more or less dominant, per se, just more confident in expressing it. I have had to renegotiate with some subs for various reasons, usually related to the dynamic being too intense or time and energy consuming.

Jayden: Like I said, it’s been all over the place. When I did have a regular submissive for more than a year, we had to renegotiate a few times when I couldn’t do all the things he needed from a Domme.

Have you found your dominance has changed with different partners/relationships? If you’re involved with partners of both sexes, does your dominance relate or change based on gender or does it depend on the person?

Richard: Sure! Different people like different dynamics, different kinks, etc. The way I play with a little is going to be very different than with a protocol slave or something. I don’t think my dominance changes nearly as much based on gender as on the individual person. Certain kinks, etc. are more common with men than with women or vice versa  but on the whole I don’t think the gender of my partner changes my carriage as a Dom much.

Jayden: Definitely. Part of what I like about being dominant is that I’m pleasing my submissive. Sure there are things I like about being dominant, but in general, I just like pleasing my partner. So my Domme role has been very different with every sub I’ve played with.

We’d love to hear your answers! Feel free to answer some/all in the comments or give us links to your blog if you answered them there!

#EroticJournalChallenge First Time…

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Richard’s Anal Story Part 2

I reached down, sliding my hands under her ass and squeezing it. “Need any lube first?”

She shook her head, “With how wet I am, it’s sure to be coated, and your cock is soaked. Just bend me over and make me your bitch.”

I slid a finger between her cheeks and pressed it against her hole. Sure enough, it slid in fairly easily, drawing a moan and some more wriggling from her. I finger fucked it for a bit, timing my thrusts at both ends. If I got the angle just right, I could feel the pressure from my finger on my cock.

Finally, I pulled out and rolled her over. She immediately looked over her shoulder, wriggled her ass, and mouthed, “Fuck me.”

Not wanting to be too easy, I spanked her a few times. After each strike, she pressed her ass back, presenting it to me, along with the growing collection of pink and red marks on her pale skin. Once I’d had enough, I pulled her cheeks open and looked at her hole. It was totally coated in her juices, and with the ones dripping off my cock, I felt pretty sure I’d be able to make it fit. I took my cock in one hand, put the other on the back of her neck, and pushed forward, moaning as she swallowed my cock with ease. I’d never felt such a tight, warm, hole before. Often, anal can be pretty rough going at first, or need extra lube, but her ass took me as easily as any pussy I’d ever been in.

She moaned out and shifted her hips, trying to find the right angle. I pulled back out, shifting my hips a little before driving back in. After a few strokes she had my full length deep in her bowels, and I leaned down to whisper in her ear. “How’s it feel, slut?”

“Hurts,” she moaned.

“Want me to stop?” It was my first time with her after all, I wouldn’t want to be too cruel.

“It’s fine. Fuck me how you want to.”

I pulled back again and shoved into her, pressing her body down. She cried out, gripping the sheets hard as I started to find a rhythm. With every thrust, her body dipped lower, and for longer. After a half dozen or so, she was pinned down on the bed, head whipping back and forth. “Oh fuck! It hurts, fuck fuck fuck!”

I grabbed onto her hips, holding her steady as she squirmed, and took a deep thrust to bottom out in her as far as I could.

“So how do you like anal now?” I asked her, holding myself deep for a few seconds.

“I fucking love it,” she moaned. “Most guys ease off if you tell them it hurts, but not you. You know how to use me.”

I laughed and slid all but the head out of her ass, then rammed back down on her. “Like that?” I growled.

“Yes!” she screamed. “Just like that. Use me, hurt me, rape my fucking ass hole!”

I started building a rhythm, hammering in and out of her as fast as I could as she wailed underneath me. “Anyone ever fuck you like this before?” I asked.

“Oh my god, oh fuck! Once at a party. He came way too fast though. Like he was just trying to tease me. Are you close?” she asked.

“I can keep it up,” I said, swirling my hips a little to stretch her even wider.

“Fuck! You’re so fucking big! Too big for my ass. It hurts so bad, I fucking love it!”

I put one hand in her hair, and squeezed the back of her throat with the other, getting the leverage to really punish her hole.

Every one of my moans was met by a scream from her, punctuated with an occasional whimper. Every once in a while she’d work up enough air for a “Fuck me! Fuck me! Harder! Hurt me!” before a particularly rough thrust would drive it all out with a scream.

“Where do you want my cum, slut?” I asked.

“As deep in my ass as you can. I want to feel it dripping out the whole way home.”

I crushed her down as hard as I could, her moans swallowed up by the mattress for a moment as waves of pleasure crashed over me, pulse after pulse of hot cum flooding into her hole.

Eventually, I let up enough for her to lift her head up, gasping for air. I slowly slid out. “Going to clean me up too, slut?” I asked.

She grimaced, but rolled over, sliding her tongue over my cock again. “Sorry, Sir. That might be too disgusting, even for me.”

I grabbed a fistful of her hair. She yelped, but grinned when she saw me pull my hand towards my cock, wiping myself off with her. “So fucking nasty. I love it,” she said.

And that’s the story of the first time I really enjoyed anal. Nothing like a sub begging you to hurt them while you fuck them, or telling you that you’re the only one who knows how to do it properly.

We’ll see you on Monday, with the next set in our 30 Days of Dominance and submission challenge.

#EroticJournalChallenge First Time…

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When was the first time you realized you were ______? OR When was the first time you realized you liked or enjoyed ______?

Richard: Jayden and I thought it would be fun to do the same kink for this one, and we decided to do anal/painal. Here’s my story:

I was in my early twenties and had done various types of anal play a few times with different partners. It was fun for a change now and then, but on the whole, I didn’t see much reason to do it over vaginal— which was cleaner, didn’t need as much lube, etc. I started chatting with a new girl online. She explained that she liked anal play when she masturbated but generally didn’t enjoy it as much with partners. We fooled around with it a little, and I would often make her do some kind of anal stimulation if she wanted to get off, finger her ass for a bit in the shower, that sort of thing.

We met up a few times and eventually wound up coming back to my place. 

“Hand me your bra,” I said as we walked to my car.

She glanced around. It was dark, without too many people in the bar’s parking lot. “Yes, Sir,” she said with a playful grin. She reached back, unhooked it, and handed it to me. I unlocked the car and tossed it into the back seat. 

“How far is it to your place?” she asked, sitting down and pulling on her seatbelt, squirming the whole time.

“Less than ten minutes,” I said, reaching across and sliding a hand under her top. I twisted her nipple lightly between my thumb and forefinger and pulled out of the parking lot. “Panties next.”

She gasped as I touched her but managed to moan out a “Yes, Master” and reach down to slide the panties under her skirt. She held them up, letting me see the wet spot soaked in the crotch, then tossed them to join the bra. 

“If you leave a stain on that seat, you can take my belt off next so I can whip you with it.”

We pulled into the parking lot of my complex. I parked and leaned over the center console to kiss her hungrily, my free hand running between her legs to feel how wet she was.

“We better get going before I need that belt,” I said. I stepped out of the car and led the way to the door as she stumbled behind me, soaked thighs pressed together.

I unlocked the door and half opened it, then turned to face her, blocking the way. “Strip down. All the way, there’s no reason a slut like you needs to be dressed in her Master’s home.”

Her lip quivered, and she looked around, but after a moment she whispered, “Yes, Master,” and pulled her shirt off, handing it to me. She looked up and down the hallway one more time before taking off her skirt. “Please…” she said, staring at me, not finishing the request.

I nodded and swung the door open, kicking her skirt inside as she ducked under my arm.

By the time the door was shut, I was already starting to take my shirt off and pointed towards the bedroom door. She started walking towards it, and I followed her. She paused in the doorway to look for a light switch, but I shoved her back, sending her stumbling onto the bed with a gasp. I flipped on the light myself and then climbed onto the bed, kneeling over her.

“Get my cock out. That’s the only thing you’re here for anyway.”

She nodded and attacked my pants, getting my belt open and nearly ripping the button off before they slid down my thighs. I kicked them off on the side of the bed.

“May I, Master?” she asked, looking up at me with a slight pout. I rolled my eyes.

“Go ahead, slut. I told you that’s why you’re here.”

She slid her tongue out of her lips and dragged it along the vein on the underside of my cock. I moaned softly, hands exploring her body as she worked, letting her go for a few minutes. Eventually, her lips popped over the head, and I tangled my fingers in her hair, gently fucking her face.

After a few moments, I pulled her off with a pop and shoved her down on the bed. I slapped her thighs open and crawled between them, leaning in to nibble them and lap at her cunt. I came away with my lips and cheeks covered in pussy juice. “I don’t think I’ve ever had such a wet slut before,” I said.

“Sorry, Sir. No one’s ever done this to me before.”

I climbed on top of her, lining my cock up and slipping in almost before I realized I was touching her pussy. She moaned out and rolled her hips, taking me all the way to the hilt on the first thrust.

“Tight fucking cunt,” I gasped, looking down at her laughing face.

“You should see how tight my ass is,” she said with a wink.

Tomorrow, we’ll post the conclusion to this little story from Richard!

#EroticJournalChallenge First Time…

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When was the first time you realized you were ______? OR When was the first time you realized you liked or enjoyed ______?

Richard: Jayden and I thought it would be fun to do the same kink for this one, and we decided to do anal/painal.

Jayden: When I was young (too young to be having sex), I thought I liked anal. I don’t know if it was just that particular partner or if it’s too long ago and so it’s fuzzy, but I did remember liking it. There was definitely a part of me that was into it because it felt “cool” or “sexy” to be into anal. A lot of girls weren’t, from my limited knowledge of the world, and so it made me “better” to be into it.

As an adult, I realize that a lot of that is bull shit. Liking anal doesn’t make you better or worse than anyone else, it’s just a matter of matching up with someone who has the same kinks or interests as you. There’s also a lot to be said for different partners bringing things out in you.

For years and years in my previous relationship, I only did anal with one partner (that was one of the rules we had) and it was fine. About 95% of the time, I didn’t look forward to it, but I was willing to do it because he liked it. I certainly didn’t protest about it.

And then I met Richard. He wanted to do anal, and I wasn’t so sure, but I wanted to please him (hey, that’s my kink!), so I said yes. I was worried because my understanding from the discussions we’d had, he can *last* in the bedroom. I was afraid I’d be sore and need to stop. But Richard has always been a very accommodating partner, and I had a safe word, so… why not?

I’d be afraid of spoiling the story, but the prompt was “when was the first time you realized you liked anal,” so… I’ve already spoiled the ending. So, here you go, a fictionalized retelling of the first time Richard and I had anal sex and I realized that it was fucking awesome.

We had already had sex today, and I was tired. And I was supposed to be busy doing things, but I can’t focus. All I can think about is being close to Richard, touching him, feeling his body against mine.

I’m sitting in an armchair that is definitely not big enough for two, but here he comes anyway. He leans down and kisses me. I moan softly against his mouth. He’s practically climbing into my lap.

“This is a bad idea,” he says, but my legs are already spread for him. I don’t care. “No,” he says, stopping me, “Get up and go over to the couch.” The couch with the ottoman in front of it made a much better space.

I go over, pulling my dress off and dropping it on the floor. I lay on my back, my legs spread for him, and I’m dripping wet. I’m always dripping wet for him.

“I want your ass,” he growls.

I’m scared. I know that he had wanted my ass, and I had even been trying to prepare for it, but I didn’t love anal as a rule, so the prospect of his big cock in my ass was terrifying. “Take it,” I groan. I want it. As scared as I am, I want it.

“Turn over.”

I get up on my knees in the right position, thrusting my ass into the air. He slips inside my pussy once, twice, three times, and then goes for my ass, but I’m so tight. He pushes his finger inside me.

“Oh my god, you’re so tight.”

All I can do is groan. I am so bad at talking during sex.

“Are you ready?” he asks.

“Yes,” I grunt. My face is buried deep in the pillows on the couch.

He presses his cock into my hole, and it burns as it stretches me out, but he gets it in. Oh god, he’s inside me. It hurts, but it feels incredible. He doesn’t wait. There’s no gentle thrust to get me used to how big he is. He’s using me. And it’s fucking hot. He thrusts in and out, filling me each time. It’s incredible. I’ve never had sex like this before. Before long, it feels good. Amazing, even. I really thought it would just hurt more the longer it went on, but it doesn’t. It feels great.

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And now we can’t go more than a week without anal before I get very grouchy and pouty. Apparently, I just needed the right partner.

Tomorrow and Sunday, we’ll post Richard’s written a fictionish account of some fun painal from his experience. Don’t miss it!